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The suggestion was posited in a recent thread that opposing political beliefs preclude a meaningful relationship.
We certainly live in divisive times with excessive vitriol and entrenched narrative being vented on both ends of the spectrum.
My partner is a right wing conservative who supports the current administration. His strongest criticism would be that he wishes there was less tweeting from POTUS.
I am from a socialist democratic country and espouse a more left wing agenda although consider myself as more a centrist. I am socially liberal with all that entails. My partner could not be more opposed to transfer of wealth, Roe v Wade etc etc.
I know that some are of the opinion that a relationship like this cannot be sustained as there are insufficient shared values.
I disagree and my life demonstrates the opposite.I am curious to hear the opinion of others who may or may not be in the same situation.
Any one else have a successful relationship in a politically divided household?
My husband and I have very different political views. Therefore, we make a point to not discuss politics.
Not always easy, especially when we lived in the DC metro area. When it does come up, we make a point to be respectful of each others' points of view and to agree to disagree. And we make a point to remember the many things we DO have in common. There is so much more to this world than politics.
We've been happily married for more than 3 decades.
I can’t imagine having enough in common with someone who had such different core beliefs than I, but I know it happens. James Carville and Mary Matelin are a super cool couple, and their politics are like oil and water.
Dh and I don’t even have any friends who have different political beliefs. It’s not like we screen people for that, but it just works out that way.
I do not see why it can not work.
I would tend not to discuss politics but I think if we all discussed the issues without mentioning parties and personalities we might find we have similar concerns and are not really that far apart on the answers.
My husband and I are political opposites. We both realize that some things in life are more important than politics.
not only that me and my late husband realized in the states the latest crop of "special" people don't represent anyone but their own self serving interest so no way would I miss out on a relationship because of this or any other politician.
We were total opposites politically but we loved and respected each other. it's no different than folks of different religions making it work.
And never would I choose or exclude a friendship based on politics
I think one's political orientation and stances are part of what defines a person. It is part of who a person is and their core values and beliefs.
Also speaking about politics and political issues without adequate knowledge indicates so many things on so many levels, none good.
Stances on political issues and core values/beliefs are important to me, even very important. So I would proceed from there.
I could make a difference in religion work and I have, but stances on important political issues, most probably not, unless the person had wildly great other attributes, but it's hard to envision for me.
Last edited by matisse12; 09-09-2018 at 03:08 PM..
To co-exist, you would have to shut down parts of yourself - unable to express your true self around your partner would not make sense to me - but I am an idealist. I would rather be alone than to force myself (a square peg) into a round hole.
Most people fear being alone and so will cope with relationships that are not really serving them.
I can’t imagine having enough in common with someone who had such different core beliefs than I, but I know it happens. James Carville and Mary Matelin are a super cool couple, and their politics are like oil and water.
That was going to be my post. DW and I have the same conservative values, as do two of our three daughters.
Apparently, the third has lived in Seattle too long! We don't discuss it. And it's a shame, as she grew up in D.C. with a father, me, who did contract work for the House and Senate and three WHs back when the Republicans were conservative and the Democrats still loved the country. She knew better!
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