Harbor Lady
Bless you for the marvelous thoughts you expressed so very well, far better than many clergymen. IMO, you are ideally suited to be a member of the clergy; and it's truly a shame that virtually all religions ban women from the collar. Your thoughts are whole and your view of humanity is that of understanding the nature of humans while steadily steering a course to a higher ethic. That is exactly what we need, always have, and need now more than ever. AFAIC, the best clergy (and nurses, and teachers) are the "good mom" types, they innately know how to empathize with the hurting, yet have the facility for guiding people to do the right thing. Men are too judgmental, too quick to swing the sword instead of extending a gentle hand. This Pope, by standing against the use of condoms in the African AIDS epidemic, has swung a sword of judgment on those illiterate masses.
I agree with you about being embarrassed. I'm embarrassed that when the world thinks of America, in the context of religion, they think of clowns like Jerry Falwell, Pat Robertson, Jesse Jackson, James Dobson, Rev Ted, Jimmy Swaggart, Tammy Faye and Jim Bakker, Al Sharpton, Robert Tilton, et al, ad nauseum. The only good one, ever, was Billy Graham, whom I supported for years before I threw in the towel and let go of all religion.
I wish this Pope saw the horrible AIDS crisis in Africa as a golden opportunity to get sensible about birth control. He is one of the few persons who plays on a worldwide stage. He could have crafted a statement to at least allow the use of condoms and birth control within the context of married couples in that educated, developed world of which you spoke. Then he extends use of condoms for persons in the epidemic areas as a humanitarian gesture, not that it pleases the church, but he'd say that adherence to doctrine must wait as he leads the urgent moral imperative to slow or halt the overwhelming suffering now seen.
s/Mike