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Hi, I'm a little less than a month and a half away from my due date, and nobody in my office has offered to throw me a baby shower. Maybe I need to give it more time, but I'm starting to worry that nobody will and I would like to have one and I'm sure people will think it is tacky for me to throw my own. It is customary for moms-to-be (and brides-to-be) to get a shower where I work, and I personally have thrown a shower for other co-workers (I've thrown two showers for one co-worker and she's still someone I work closely with). I think it is rude to ask for a shower, but I'm not sure how to let others know that I'd like to have a shower (if this is even proper). Please, if you think I'm rude or selfish for asking this question, I'd like you to keep those thoughts to yourself and not reply to this post. Thanks.
You're not rude for wondering if you'll be treated the same as coworkers in the same position have been treated.
It goes against etiquette to request that a shower be held, obviously. But your coworkers are also guilty of a breach of etiquette if they routinely hold workplace showers for some, but not others. It's very rude to exclude some if there is a particular precedent set.
Are showers typically a surprise? Or at least sometimes? For my work shower, they managed to completely surprise me, they are lucky I didn't go into labor! lol!
and I agree with TabulaRasa, if having a work shower is the norm, it's not rude to assume you are going to have one. But you are in a tough spot, because of course it is rude to ask. Can you talk to the co-worker you've thrown showers for, and casually mention a non-work shower and see if there is any reaction?
I don't blame you for wondering. But I think if you ask, you'll just look greedy, and personally I would rather not ask and be a polite person who doesn't get a shower, than ask about a shower and have people give me one because I made them feel obligated. I would remain patient, and hopefully they are working on a surprise shower.
I don't blame you for wondering. But I think if you ask, you'll just look greedy, and personally I would rather not ask and be a polite person who doesn't get a shower, than ask about a shower and have people give me one because I made them feel obligated. I would remain patient, and hopefully they are working on a surprise shower.
If there is a close friend at work you could just ask her, "Last month we had a shower for Mary when she was 6 months pregnant, and the shower before her shower was for Jennie who was 7 months pregnant."
"I'm almost 8 months pregnant and I was wondering if anyone has mentioned hosting a work baby shower for me?"
Thanks. I'm unfortunately not super close to anyone I work with, but there's a few ladies I work with regularly (and one of them I've thrown two showers for). Part of my concern is that at some point I'm going to need to start buying the stuff we'll need if I'm not getting a shower, so that I'll have it when the baby comes. I don't want to start buying everything on the registry if I'll end up getting a shower. I guess I'll just wait a couple more weeks. If nothing else, I can hold off on buying things I won't need right away.
You should probably be buying things, anyway...you can't expect that everything you need will be gifted to you by others. Is this your first child, or do you already have quite a few things from previous children? If it's the former, I'd hope that you'd have gotten some things here and there prior to the final month of pregnancy. I'm not due till Sept., but we've been picking various necessities up little by little, here, as we go, because it would be really expensive to do all at once.
Thanks. I'm unfortunately not super close to anyone I work with, but there's a few ladies I work with regularly (and one of them I've thrown two showers for). Part of my concern is that at some point I'm going to need to start buying the stuff we'll need if I'm not getting a shower, so that I'll have it when the baby comes. I don't want to start buying everything on the registry if I'll end up getting a shower. I guess I'll just wait a couple more weeks. If nothing else, I can hold off on buying things I won't need right away.
Do you not have any friends or family outside of work that would throw a shower for you?
Hi, I'm a little less than a month and a half away from my due date, and nobody in my office has offered to throw me a baby shower. Maybe I need to give it more time, but I'm starting to worry that nobody will and I would like to have one and I'm sure people will think it is tacky for me to throw my own. It is customary for moms-to-be (and brides-to-be) to get a shower where I work, and I personally have thrown a shower for other co-workers (I've thrown two showers for one co-worker and she's still someone I work closely with). I think it is rude to ask for a shower, but I'm not sure how to let others know that I'd like to have a shower (if this is even proper). Please, if you think I'm rude or selfish for asking this question, I'd like you to keep those thoughts to yourself and not reply to this post. Thanks.
It is your choice to do something like this for a coworker as it is their choice to do the same for you or not.
If you are due in less than a month you should have been gathering items necessary about 6 months ago. You do not rely on someone else to provide for your child, you choose to do that when you choose to become a parent.
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