I'm in a tough situation currently with my stepmother that I have known for about 15 years. She was always kind of weird and different, but the past couple of years (and last year especially) have been really bad and she has done a lot of very hurtful things to my fiancee and I.
On 4th of July she had a party at her place and I had quite a bit to drink (she was drinking too) and I threw up that night, and the next night she told me that I was possessed and that I threw up because I was trying to throw up a demon or something twisted. She then told me that some demon that has been following her since she was younger has now followed me and that I'll probably be scared of her from now on.
Just a little while before this incident I had left my job to work with my father and moved across the country. My fiancee and I got engaged last may.
Since we got engaged and before, she's tried to be controlling. She said she wanted to plan an engagement party for my fiancee and us and I told her not to worry about it, but she kept on pushing about it.
My father didn't really want to get involved with it but she pretty much has control over him.
She made a whole show about how much she was doing planning the party and how nice it was going to be and told our family and friends about it...then I found out she didn't send out the invitations.
I had come back from a cruise and when I came back I asked her if the invites got sent out because my fiancee said nobody got invitations .
She casually said "No, I didn't get them out..but I can hand deliver then" . I said there was no point to do that as it's too last minute and the party was in a few days or so. My fiancee and I didn't want her to do it at all but she kept saying that she had already planned so much and put up money for this party.
At the same time she has been going through IVF treatment and wants to have a child at 42 with my father who is 58 years old (whole other issue!) .
My fiancees family decided to take matters into their own hands and plan the party themselves for their own daughter . They sent her an invitation and then she blew up and said that it was rude that they didn't include her and that they planned the party behind her back. She accused my fiancee and I of knowing about it and not telling her.
She tried to make the whole thing about her when it is supposed to be about us and our wedding. She always acted like she cares so much and that she wants our happiness, but her actions have not been consistent with that.
My father tries to avoid conflict and seems to have no sway over her.
My fiancee visited in January and she had told her privately that "I was the reason you got married, and I was the one that pushed him to get married" and she brought up that she thought I was possessed and all that bs. She told her that she sprayed holy water in my room.
I waited a while and just last night I brought up to her that I didn't appreciate her saying those things about me , she then told me that "people were worried about me that night" but she had never mentioned it that night or another time. She also accused me of saying things against religion on another occassion and even my father told her that was inaccurate as he was there.
I feel like I can't trust her whatsoever. I was staying with them but now I am staying at a hotel . I had a flight back home planned in about a week. In the middle of all this I have been trying to do business with my father, but her personality disorders and her manipulative behavior have caused some real serious issues.
After I left she messaged my fiancee and told me her all these things to make me look bad, and said "if you wanted him back in California , you should of just said it" she was trying to twist it to put blame on my fiancee when she was at fault.
I think my father realizes as he was really upset last night and asked her why she was trying to ruin our relationship. The problem is that he was also blaming me for "pushing her buttons" .
At this point I feel like she's burned so many bridges . She always makes a point to say that she's a 'straight shooter' and that she's 'not a liar' . Last night she could be pretty much every name in the book and I avoided calling her any dirty names. She said that I had "always been her hero" because I had been through a lot when I was younger with my parents divorce mostly.
I am wondering does this sound like the signs of a sociopath. I've been reading things like this
How to Deal With a Sociopath (with Pictures) - wikiHow
and it feels creepily accurate.
I am a sensitive type person and I feel like she has been preying on me for a long time. Even though she claims to respect honesty and tells me that I should talk about things if they bother me, when I have brought things up to her she has blown up.
I feel like she is upset that i've finally 'found her out' and called her on her inappropriate actions.
My father stills seems to be in denial and says "She cares about you a lot and wants the best for you" . I told him if someone cared they wouldn't treat my fiancee and I like that.
At this point I feel like just cutting her totally out . The issue is that she's technically a partner in our business ventures ..but isn't actually working with us. More of a silent partner situation (investing money she inherited in into the ventures) .
At this point my father is practically begging that I stay and work with as he's said he's invested in these ventures. He said he wouldn't of gotten into these businesses if I hadn't agreed to work with him.
He now mentioned that we could build the businesses and sell them in the near future.
I feel terrible right now that I don't feel comfortable at his place , which was my grandparents condo , that I've had fond memories of since I was very little , 30 years.
I think things would be alright if I had my own place, and I had been promised this in the beginning but then they decided to sell the place that they had offered for me to live in. Then they said they were going to invest the money towards businesses that would benefit all of us...then recently they mentioned they were going to buy income property for themselves with the money once they sell it.
Do you think I am dealing with a sociopath here?
My father has admitted she's not well, but doesn't seem to be doing anything about it. He told me ,"what do you want me to do, are you asking me to divorce her?'
She seems to have most or all of the traits of a sociopath.
How to spot a sociopath - 10 red flags that could save you from being swept under the influence of a charismatic nut job - NaturalNews.com
What is the best plan of action? What would you do in this situation?