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I think that only about 10% of the population are TRULY a-holes most of the time, although I think when it comes to driving on freeways, that percentage doubles! It has also been my experience that only about 10% of the population are nice virtually all the time.
You know what they say...If everybody around you is an *******, chances are, you're the *******.
The way I heard it was:
"Walk out the door and meet an ******* and that's life. Walk out the door and meet two *******s, it's a bad day. Walk out the door and meet three *******s, you are the *******."
They were not given true love and compassion in their childhood(Narcissistic/dysfunctional parenting), It is easier to be mean than show compassion, Subconscious fear of life and love from being treated poorly and having had bad experiences(abuse). Subconscious guilt. These are a few reasons.
Also, If one realizes that in their existence they are surrounded by self -centered a-holes it is much easier to become one of them to survive than to go against the a-hole grain.
Last edited by Know Nonsense; 08-04-2015 at 05:48 PM..
You know what they say...If everybody around you is an *******, chances are, you're the *******.
Not really. People who work in customer service see nasty people all the time. People tend to forget that the person who they're talking on the phone with (or dealing with in person) most likely isn't the reason why you've had difficulty.
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Originally Posted by Know Nonsense
They were not given true love and compassion in their childhood(Narcissistic/dysfunctional parenting), It is easier to be mean than show compassion, Subconscious fear of life and love from being treated poorly and having had bad experiences(abuse). Subconscious guilt. These are a few reasons.
Also, If one realizes that in their existence they are surrounded by self -centered a-holes it is much easier to become one of them to survive than to go against the a-hole grain.
I agree with everything you said. People have to remember that a large percentage of the population has had something bad happen to them before they turned 18. And the majority of those folks never receive the help that they need to move forward from the pain. A lot of people end up depressed and/or they take out their pain on others - hence the plethora of a*sholes.
I'm in a state so famous for a-holes that we've got our own name for them (m*ssholes) and even here I'd say they're at most a visible minority. Most people are anonymous but when I interact with them they're either nice or neutral.
Either you have a low threshold for calling someone an a-hole, you manage to find the worst in people, or you have really bad luck.
I have family in Wakefield (from both sides; my mom's brother and dad's sister happened to settle down a mile away from each other in a [jay]random Boston suburb) and have been there 7-8 times in my life (mostly in childhood, admittedly). Rather limited though my MA experiences may be, that nickname (which I learned about from a friend here in Buffalo who likewise has a good portion of his family in Boston) has never really struck me as deserved. Buffalo people have always struck me as more abrasive and collectively assholish; by comparison, Boston people seemed a nice reprieve. Driving was (seemingly) a different story but I can deal with a greater level of assholish driving if the tradeoff is better public behavior otherwise. Plus with all the colleges in greater Boston and higher education levels generally, it wouldn't seem to fit. So is that nickname more a function of linguistic convenience (you know, Mass_____) like I suspect? Because compared to Buffalonians anyway Massachusettsians always impressed me with their restraint.
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