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Recently a female friend made some outlandish comments when mildly intoxicated. The next day I asked about some of what she said, as some of it was pretty hurtful and something I would not have expected to hear. The comments had to do with how she felt about me and our friendship. She tells me she was drunk and didn't mean any of what she said and I should know better. Don't let it bother me.
When I drink, I become honest and would say things I normally keep guarded. I have always heard when people are drunk, they tend to speak the truth, so I am thinking she actually meant what she said, but is just embarrassed she said it.
Thoughts on this? Do drunk people usually speak their true feelings?
Recently a female friend made some outlandish comments when mildly intoxicated. The next day I asked about some of what she said, as some of it was pretty hurtful and something I would not have expected to hear. The comments had to do with how she felt about me and our friendship. She tells me she was drunk and didn't mean any of what she said and I should know better. Don't let it bother me.
When I drink, I become honest and would say things I normally keep guarded. I have always heard when people are drunk, they tend to speak the truth, so I am thinking she actually meant what she said, but is just embarrassed she said it.
Thoughts on this? Do drunk people usually speak their true feelings?
A drunk man/woman speaks a sober mind.
So, usually alcohol gives them courage and say what they would never say if sober.
Derogatory comments to do with my deceased mother, and that I was a judgemental a**hole because I told her she was embarrasing me in a public place with loud unruly behavior and cursing. Told me she never wanted to see me again and our friendship was over.
Called me next morning and asked if I was mad at her and I said no, just surprised at your behavior. I don't know her that well, but I have been told she has problems with alcohol and is possibly bipolar.
I've said things I didn't mean when drunk. Once or twice I've found a way to turn "I've got a small problem within our living arrangement that can be remedied easily" into "you're garbage, dirty, uncivilized blah blah blah..."
OK not QUITE that bad, but close. Some of us just find ways to exaggerate until we strike a nerve/get a reaction.
Derogatory comments to do with my deceased mother, and that I was a judgemental a**hole because I told her she was embarrasing me in a public place with loud unruly behavior and cursing. Told me she never wanted to see me again and our friendship was over.
Called me next morning and asked if I was mad at her and I said no, just surprised at your behavior. I don't know her that well, but I have been told she has problems with alcohol and is possibly bipolar.
Just out of curiosity, is this the woman who cancelled dinner plans with you at the last minute and then showed up with fast food bags in her car? Because if it is, I'd punt her right out of my life.
Regardless, she probably really does think those things on some level. I'm not so high and mighty that I'm going to say she's a problem because of those thoughts alone, because we all have a lizard brain. It's just that most of us have working filters even when tipsy. (Otherwise Curb Your Enthusiasm wouldn't have been such a hit show. Larry David just said all the obnoxious, inappropriate things we all think at some point but that we know are unfair, wrong, or otherwise unworthy of voicing.) She's a problem because she can't hold her liquor and drinking disables her filter.
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