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I am an extreme introvert.
I have never grown up with many friends ( Only about a few friends, and a girlfriend right now)
I feel odd to say this but I actually love spending time by myself.
Lots of times I do a lot of things by myself ( Apart from spending time with my gf which I love her alot)
I just felt like in my childhood I had many people that took advantage of me and were fake friends and I don't let people approach me that easily in real life, and I carefully consider who is a true friend.
But I like doin things by myself. ( cooking, traveling, reading books, sleeping in, watching a movie, etc)
Am I an odd bug for wanting to spend time by myself?
I do not mind spending time with my gf but I don't mind being by myself either at times.
And also for the most part, I prefer to spend time but only with one person at a time( like its either my girlfriend, or like my best friend)
So if like my girlfriend was with me at a party I love to be with her but JUST HER not have multiple people by my side ( like i get this overwhelmin feeling)
Does anyone else feel just about the same way or similar.?
I feel like I grew up with this mentality because of my childhood.
I am an extreme introvert.
I have never grown up with many friends ( Only about a few friends, and a girlfriend right now)
I feel odd to say this but I actually love spending time by myself.
Lots of times I do a lot of things by myself ( Apart from spending time with my gf which I love her alot)
I just felt like in my childhood I had many people that took advantage of me and were fake friends and I don't let people approach me that easily in real life, and I carefully consider who is a true friend.
But I like doin things by myself. ( cooking, traveling, reading books, sleeping in, watching a movie, etc)
Am I an odd bug for wanting to spend time by myself?
I do not mind spending time with my gf but I don't mind being by myself either at times.
And also for the most part, I prefer to spend time but only with one person at a time( like its either my girlfriend, or like my best friend)
So if like my girlfriend was with me at a party I love to be with her but JUST HER not have multiple people by my side ( like i get this overwhelmin feeling)
Does anyone else feel just about the same way or similar.?
I feel like I grew up with this mentality because of my childhood.
Introverts often do not like to interact socially for a long time, constantly or in large groups. Some intros find doing this exhausting. If you do not feel anxious about social things, but do find them tiring, then I'd say this is because you are introverted. Not all introverts have these feelings though, or at least strong feelings. Some of them are simply not big schmoozers. I think both introverts and extroverts exist on a continuum of possible traits.
I don't think you are odd. The fact that you like to hang with your gf, makes me feel that are doing fine.
You can find the Meyer-Briggs test, or a simplified form of it, online. You might take it to see what it tells you about yourself.
I am not a psychologist. I am only giving my opinion. If you want definitive answers, you can find stuff online or in books. You could also find a counselor to administer the full Meyer-Briggs test, so you would know more about yourself. The Myers & Briggs Foundation - Take the MBTI® Instrument
This is pretty standard introversion. Nothing wrong with it. Introverts are about 25% of society, though, so it's a minority tendency that some will misunderstand or give short shrift or confuse with shyness, etc., etc.
As a fellow introvert my advice is to embrace yourself as you are and don't overthink or worry about it.
I think its perfectly normal. I know people who have hobbies where they work alone for hours on their garden, music, pottery, painting, etc. since they dont like to interact with people. Having a few quality friends definitely beats a crowd of flaky people. Do whatever makes ypu happy & healthy. No need to follow the crowd or what a magazine considers to be the current healthy trend. Its all about how you feel.
I'm not that introverted, and I love time to myself. I enjoy time with select friends and loved ones, and I have no problem being friendly and sociable with others who cross my path while out and about. I'm not a hermit or an exteme introvert...I'm not even shy. But I do cherish alone time. Nothing more relaxing and nice.
I think, it's totally normal, at least for me:-) but I'm a big introvert. Nothing's wrong with spending time by themselves.
I guess I would be thinkin that its more the norm to be very actively social at least in the LA area thats how it seems.
You know there was a time I was with my girlfriend and she had like a big groups of friends but I felt pressured and very unsure about myself.
Like it was hard for me to interact with a big group at once
I had no idea what to say
I prefer every was mostly gone and it was only me and her
Or if I was going to talk to someone just be 1 to 1 interaction.
But mostly I been like that my whole life.
I felt very comfy when it was just me and my gf myself or if I was myself my general.
I guess I would be thinkin that its more the norm to be very actively social at least in the LA area thats how it seems.
You know there was a time I was with my girlfriend and she had like a big groups of friends but I felt pressured and very unsure about myself.
Like it was hard for me to interact with a big group at once
I had no idea what to say
I prefer every was mostly gone and it was only me and her
Or if I was going to talk to someone just be 1 to 1 interaction.
But mostly I been like that my whole life.
I felt very comfy when it was just me and my gf myself or if I was myself my general.
I think it's hard for people (specially young people) to accept themselves if they are "different" than most of the society. Our society is very social and outgoing, and there's not many of us.:-) My mother and sister can't understand my introvert nature, they think I'm missing on something:-)
Also, it looks like you can go thru slight anxiety, possibly?
I was very lucky to find my husband, who is introvert too. I, personally can't imagine to spend my life with extrovert. It would be very hard for me.
Try not to think about if it's "normal" to be introvert. Yes, it's normal:-) There are people like you, and me:-)
Good luck.
Bo
I am an extreme introvert.
I have never grown up with many friends ( Only about a few friends, and a girlfriend right now)
I feel odd to say this but I actually love spending time by myself.
Lots of times I do a lot of things by myself ( Apart from spending time with my gf which I love her alot)
I just felt like in my childhood I had many people that took advantage of me and were fake friends and I don't let people approach me that easily in real life, and I carefully consider who is a true friend.
But I like doin things by myself. ( cooking, traveling, reading books, sleeping in, watching a movie, etc)
Am I an odd bug for wanting to spend time by myself?
I do not mind spending time with my gf but I don't mind being by myself either at times.
And also for the most part, I prefer to spend time but only with one person at a time( like its either my girlfriend, or like my best friend)
So if like my girlfriend was with me at a party I love to be with her but JUST HER not have multiple people by my side ( like i get this overwhelmin feeling)
Does anyone else feel just about the same way or similar.?
I feel like I grew up with this mentality because of my childhood.
most people aren't "Real friends". my theory is that if you find one 'true friend' in your entire life, you hit a 10,000=1 shot, its like hitting the lottery, a true friend is as rare as the hope diamond yet, many people think they have "lots" of friends. no such thing, 99.999 pct of those people would turn on you in a heartbeat if they needed to.
I'm extremely gregarious and chatty, but I have absolutely no problem being alone, in fact I prefer it.
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