Life Without Love (dating, woman, emotion, relationship)
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Cremebrulee, may I ask if your own life is completely without love? My experience is that those things that can bring happiness "alone" (when you're not technically "all alone") can be rendered not only unfullfilling, but even meaningless in its total absence.
OMG, yes, I have love....I live alone, yes, but I have several work companions, and deal with others everyday of my life, and love the interaction....actually need it to keep my mind stimulated....
My son calls me every weekend, and I speak to my grand daughter a lot. I have a social life with friends, whom I love, very much....and honestly for the past oh, say 20 years, I have never been happier. I have sisters a brother and cousins, and neighbors that are close friends.
I'm fulfilled b/c I can look back on my life and smile. Yes, the road was tough at times, but I learned a great deal from it all, both good and bad.
Am I lonely, no, never. Used to be, many years ago, there was a huge hole in my being, an emptiness from betrayal.....It was tough, but as in all things, it passed and I was better for it. It all started happening when I embraced my life as it was, and did some personal examination....boy the answers started flowing in.
I gotta say, I loved being 50, and the age I am now....which is when life became so much more meaningful and important. Learned that no one can make me happy and didn't have to look for approval from others for happiness. Yes, I am alone, but never lonely....and people ask me the same question as you have here.
For the very first time in my life, I've not had to consult with anyone else, about when I eat, where I go, or what I do when I go...I've been more productive during this time than any other time in my life.
Is my own life completely without love, No. There is so much love in everyday happenings, no matter how small...Love is all around us, and in us, we are all connected with all things...love is helping others, giving to others, and sharing experiences...knowledge, art, music, poetry, books....just driving home from work, or watching people....experiencing new adventures....whatever they may be.
If I was much younger and had it to do all over again, I would love to "try" living in the forest of Alaska somewhere...by myself. I was perfectly independent of being taken care of, I could shoot, fish and hunt...and do most anything that a man could do.
"Maybe it's because you make it sound as though there must be the ONE, a single object only."
I meant AT LEAST one relationship in which love is given and received and is more than just a casual acquaintance or superficial connection. Of course one can (should, and usually does) have more than one. Sorry I wasn't clearer. I dunno; maybe such a scenario is just completely foreign and thus unfathomable to most people? I hope that's the case.
I can be quite happy all by myself and was for a couple of years following a divorce after a 25-year marriage that ended. However, I much prefer being able to share that happiness with another which might be why I remarried and have stayed that way for a bit over 20 years. While single I did get a cat!
I grew up in a household of 7 people. My privacy was a premium. Quiet time was a premium. I love having some alone time. I relish it. Could I be happy and a recluse? Probably not in the truest sense of the word, but long periods of aloneness would be A-OK with me.
And I have lots of love and happiness in my life. Just putting that out there.
One of my friends was an only child. She was lonely a lot. Even now, she's a stay at home housewife, and still gets lonely. Thus, she tends to put EVERY SINGLE THING out there on Facebook. She had entirely more privacy and alone time than she's ever wanted.
I don't think its a myth at all. Thank God I at least have my cat. She got me through my divorce and has been an awesome companion. I'm definitely lonely over the last 8 years and feel very unfulfilled in my personal life. I would not want to live the next 30 years like this, that's for sure. I do know I will always have a pet at least, its just not enough for me.
OMG, yes, I have love....I live alone, yes, but I have several work companions, and deal with others everyday of my life, and love the interaction....actually need it to keep my mind stimulated....
My son calls me every weekend, and I speak to my grand daughter a lot. I have a social life with friends, whom I love, very much....and honestly for the past oh, say 20 years, I have never been happier. I have sisters a brother and cousins, and neighbors that are close friends.
I'm fulfilled b/c I can look back on my life and smile. Yes, the road was tough at times, but I learned a great deal from it all, both good and bad.
Am I lonely, no, never. Used to be, many years ago, there was a huge hole in my being, an emptiness from betrayal.....It was tough, but as in all things, it passed and I was better for it. It all started happening when I embraced my life as it was, and did some personal examination....boy the answers started flowing in.
I gotta say, I loved being 50, and the age I am now....which is when life became so much more meaningful and important. Learned that no one can make me happy and didn't have to look for approval from others for happiness. Yes, I am alone, but never lonely....and people ask me the same question as you have here.
For the very first time in my life, I've not had to consult with anyone else, about when I eat, where I go, or what I do when I go...I've been more productive during this time than any other time in my life.
Is my own life completely without love, No. There is so much love in everyday happenings, no matter how small...Love is all around us, and in us, we are all connected with all things...love is helping others, giving to others, and sharing experiences...knowledge, art, music, poetry, books....just driving home from work, or watching people....experiencing new adventures....whatever they may be.
If I was much younger and had it to do all over again, I would love to "try" living in the forest of Alaska somewhere...by myself. I was perfectly independent of being taken care of, I could shoot, fish and hunt...and do most anything that a man could do.
Have I answered your question?
You loved being 50? I'm dreading it. Its 2 years away and I have so many regrets, the biggest being not having a family of my own. Also, at 50, I know I'll no longer be considered young.
You loved being 50? I'm dreading it. Its 2 years away and I have so many regrets, the biggest being not having a family of my own. Also, at 50, I know I'll no longer be considered young.
Take it from one who found himself single at 50, that isn't old at all. At 70 I can assure you of that. As for regrets, either fix them or set them aside. Being comfortable with yourself is like money in the bank in terms of comfort and security. Try it. You might like it.
You loved being 50? I'm dreading it. Its 2 years away and I have so many regrets, the biggest being not having a family of my own. Also, at 50, I know I'll no longer be considered young.
you can't go back and change anything, as you know...so move on and be happy....make a list of things you'd like to do, perhaps things you've always wanted to do and have never done so and do them!
And yes, when I reach oh say 48 - 50 was when things started making sense, by self examination over the years.....
and yes, 70 is old....and I've got two more years to go...lol
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