I don't want kids, per se (mentally, boyfriend, woman, girlfriend)

[ghostee]

Oookayy. So I am a single man. I know some of the other couples around me are already having babies, and they are still not married yet, or will never be. I might have some "baby fever", Google the idea if you don't know what that is. Even though I don't really want kids per se, I do want to engage in "making (and having) a baby" with a potential girlfriend. I'm aware this is pretty taboo and unacceptable, so I might not act on that. But I don't know how to control it. Am I even mentally insane? I'm tired of seeing all these beautiful, attractive females (some I had crushes on) together and having their first baby with their boyfriend.

Even worse, I am behind on life stages unlike my other peers.

[timberline742]

So, am I following this? You want to impregnate someone, but not raise the child? Is that right?


I wouldn't call it insane, just ridiculously irresponsible and immoral, and on the cruel side of the spectrum as well.


If I'm following you correctly.

[ghostee]

Look, I know it's cruel, but I don't exactly know how to handle it.

[timberline742]

Originally Posted by ghostee

Look, I know it's cruel, but I don't exactly know how to handle it.

Have a vasectomy and talk to a professional. Simple.

[MinivanDriver]

Originally Posted by ghostee

Look, I know it's cruel, but I don't exactly know how to handle it.

Cruel is about the most charitable way to put it.

[Auraliea]

So in other words you want to have a child for the sake of having child.

Dysfunction breads dysfunction. That is incredibly unfair to a child and it's beyond selfish.

Please seek professional guidance.

[reneeh63]

Originally Posted by ghostee

Oookayy. So I am a single man. I know some of the other couples around me are already having babies, and they are still not married yet, or will never be. I might have some "baby fever", Google the idea if you don't know what that is. Even though I don't really want kids per se, I do want to engage in "making (and having) a baby" with a potential girlfriend. I'm aware this is pretty taboo and unacceptable, so I might not act on that. But I don't know how to control it. Am I even mentally insane? I'm tired of seeing all these beautiful, attractive females (some I had crushes on) together and having their first baby with their boyfriend.

Even worse, I am behind on life stages unlike my other peers.

You must be incredibly immature to need to impregnate a woman to feel okay about yourself.

But you don't REALLY want a baby...you just want to get laid by a beautiful, attractive female (some you've had crushes on).

[BirdieBelle]

Wait wait wait ...

Are you saying you wish you could experience that with someone you are attracted to, like the people you see around you?

Or is it about sex?

I'm trying to figure out exactly what it is you feel like you're missing out on.

Because it's not a crime to want to have a shared bonding experience like loving someone and having a child together. Of course, then walking away after that isn't admirable, but I'm not sure that's what you're saying.

[ghostee]

It's more about the whole package than about sex to be honest.

[va_bank]

"Even though I don't really want kids per se, I do want to engage in "making (and having) a baby"

I dislocated my brain, trying to power through that statement.