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One time I had a heating guy who sat down in my kitchen and started gabbing about his much younger wife, she is pregnant, blah blah, he seemed so proud to have a young wife and baby on the way at his older age and had to let me know all about it. I had never met the guy before but knew a lot about him by the time he left.
Susan, with all due respect.....you had crossed over into the personal arena by talking with him about raising his daughter and making small talk....I guess I am missing something here that would make you consider telling his boss. What would you tell his boss? Do you think the boss should just fire the man? Would that make you feel better? Maybe next time you have a stranger come in your house don't start chatting about their personal life. Maybe that will stop the problem. AND to answer your question...."YES" you are being a Fuddy Duddy.
For pete's sakes. This is not about special snowflakes being offended and horrified, clutching pearls, nor if anybody wants to bang anybody. From the (OBVIOUS) tone of the OP's comments, she did not find him threatening (as in, "he wants to bang you") and I doubt if there was a "maybe something sexual could happen, hint hint wink wink" vibe (ya'll watch way too much porn.) In life we run into "omg wtf" moments. OP had one. She's trying to process her reaction to it. My thoughts? Yes of course he was inappropriate, especially if he just came charging out the gate, like outta nowhere with that ish. I've had some pretty graphic conversations with people I was interacting with professionally before, but you bet your buttons I very carefully and delicately tiptoed across that threshold while gauging their comfort level. The owner of the shop where I had my car worked on, clearly had nothing to do but sit in the office while I waited for like 2 hours and talk about some really personal stuff with me. But when the conversation started to drift that direction, I actually asked him to make sure he was comfortable with where the subject was going, and not going to be offended. And it is rare to find a situation where that seems like an ok option. In most professional/client interactions, it just isn't.
And he was not a woman who is much older than me, nor was I a strange man alone in her house with her. I think some guys don't realize that in such a scenario, they should be on "Grandma's House" behavior. That guy certainly didn't.
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So I’m sitting in my living room scanning through CD while my son’s movement therapist is here working with him & im struggling to keep a straight face as I read the OP... OMG ...
I’m not an “lol” person, I’ve maybe used that twice in 3 years here on CD but I just can’t even ... !
OP; you are not a total fuddy duddy you are hysterical! I can totally picture a 65+ woman sitting in her living room recliner while a cute repairman is proudly blurting out “Penis!” & “Vagina!” ... rendering her speechless! Oh I better quit before I start giggling like a lunatic... I needed that today!
In the spirit of taking life's funny moments for what they're worth, this is exactly how I'd react, and I would repeat that story for laughs with my friends, too.
I would not call and report the guy to his boss, because as another poster mentioned, the guy has a family that probably counts on his income and he could be fired. HOWEVER. If I ever got the opportunity to speak specifically to HIM again (like if he left me his card, or I could reach him directly) I might actually reach out to him with a little feedback along the lines of, "Dude look...I know you meant no harm by this, but you should probably filter your conversational subjects a little more wisely when in the homes of customers. I am not reporting this to your company, but I can't guarantee what the next 65 year old lady you talk about genitalia to is going to do, and if I were you, I wouldn't chance it. Just a little friendly feedback, and I hope you have a nice day."
You were a victim of over-sharing. A couple of people have mentioned that it was a quote from kindergarden cop. I'm not familiar with the quote or the context of how it came up in your conversation...but it seems to me, that in the context of a business/service call, it seems innapropriate to me.
I've been the victim of over-sharing before...enough so (by the same person) that I considered telling his boss. But the last time I saw the guy, he was pretty sedate and to the point (of his reason for being there) so I'm guessing someone else beat me to it.
I don't consider myself a fuddy duddy, but I also don't consider myself the trash receptacle for every dopey thought that pops into a stranger's head and out of his mouth. Boundaries people. Boundaries.
True but I forgot to say he replied that penises come in different lengths and widths. In the context of that's what they tell their daughter. I decided against looking for a measuring tape since he had one in his hand.
Yikes!! Having read this, I'm changing my mind. You should report him to his company. I've had many, many repairmen in my house when I'm alone over the years and I've never had any one of them come even close to being this inappropriate/creepy.
My best friend taught his 4 year old the difference between penises and vaginas, and she got to look like a medical expert the other day at daycare. Someone brought in their (female) dog, and one of her classmates was struggling because she could not find the dog's "weiner". My friend's anatomy scholar daughter astutely pointed out "It's a girl dog, she has a vagina!" and the fortunate dog was no longer subject to any more anatomical inspection. My friend's heart swelled with pride enough that he texted me an account of the whole event while waiting in the parking lot.
Maybe this technician had a similar story to share but he didn't get that far into the conversation.
I am married and well over sixty five. My husband wasn't home ; I called the air conditioner place to repair our a/c.
The man arrived , worked outside in blistering heat for twenty minutes then came inside. He had to chat with me, or something, to see if it was really fixed.
This man, Adam, was overweight but really cute and sweet and about forty. Maybe younger. He was talking about he and his wife raising their daughter and what kind of methods they used. He said, "and we tell her, 'a woman has a vagina and a man has a penis.' I was speechless and expressionless. I was sitting in a recliner in my sweats with no makeup on; he was standing up.
Would you have responded? Thought nothing of it? Reported this to his boss? Eventually I said, "I bet you're anxious to get home to your wife after a day like this" and he goes, "she isn't home." He left soon afterwards.
I don't know why he was discussing his family anyway. He was there to fix the air conditioning. When repair people come to my house I want them to do the job they were hired to do and leave so I can return to whatever I am doing.
It was, for sure, and even HE looked surprised that he said it. It was funny, though, because my adult son was sitting there with me. I bark-laughed and my son just looked perplexed like, "Did that dude really just say that to my mom?"
And then the cable guy turned red and went out to the van to get something. I presume he went to get ice cream.
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Report him??? Are you serious?
Having read this, I'm changing my mind. You should report him to his company. I've had many, many repairmen in my house when I'm alone over the years and I've never had any one of them come even close to being this inappropriate/creepy.
