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Since City-Data seems to represent the general consensus of Middle Americans' political views, I just wanted to pose this question: should I be ashamed of being bisexual? If so, what should I do to change my sexuality? Am I destined to hell? Should I be treated the same like anyone else?
Just a few questions that have been bugging the heck out of me. I don't like guilt. I feel guilty, ever since coming out to family and friends. I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders, like I'm doing the world a great disservice by not changing who I am. I know that most heterosexual Americans look down on me, and I don't blame them. I think about Matt Shepard and the agonizing torture that he had to endure, and I don't want to meet the same fate as him. Even though he was full-fledged homosexual, and I'm merely "riding the fence".
Are my feelings justified? My feelings of guilt and fear? Or should I "ignore the haters" and go on with my mundane life?
Since City-Data seems to represent the general consensus of Middle Americans' political views, I just wanted to pose this question: should I be ashamed of being bisexual? If so, what should I do to change my sexuality? Am I destined to hell? Should I be treated the same like anyone else?
Just a few questions that have been bugging the heck out of me. I don't like guilt. I feel guilty, ever since coming out to family and friends. I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders, like I'm doing the world a great disservice by not changing who I am. I know that most heterosexual Americans look down on me, and I don't blame them. I think about Matt Shepard and the agonizing torture that he had to endure, and I don't want to meet the same fate as him. Even though he was full-fledged homosexual, and I'm merely "riding the fence".
Are my feelings justified? My feelings of guilt and fear? Or should I "ignore the haters" and go on with my mundane life?
Please listen to old_cold's advice here.
Also, out of curiosity--are you yourself male or female?
I don't know, but unfortunately some people feel a sense of shame over their sexuality. For instance, this is why some homophobes are themselves secretly gay.
OP, I grew up in a small town where everyone had a problem with how others lead their life, very tightly religious and judgmental.
Today I'm white hetero male, middle-aged, upper middle class dude living in KS (of all places) and I would have no problem hanging out and being close friends with anyone regardless of orientation, race, gender ID, religion...I just don't give a fudge.
You do you and surround yourself with people that aren't a-holes about what you do with your personal relationships.
Best of luck.
Billions of people out there, make your own way, your own relationships, your own circle of friends and DO NOT try to accomodate those that nip, poke or otherwise drag at you on that journey.
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