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Yep. I learned this as a young kiddo.....I don't even remember what lie I'd told but it got me in trouble with some little friends. My father told me that when you always tell the truth, you never have to remember what you told someone or keep your story straight. A life lesson I've kept with me through the decades. It's true.
It is! The old saw, "honesty is the best policy", is one of the best life lessons a parent can teach.
Even during my working years, if I screwed up at work, I found it was best to just say, "yeah, it was my mistake, I'll make it right" rather than try to cover up or invent a story about what went wrong.
I was scrolling through fb yesterday. Not in the mood to do my traveling down my timeline "like like like like like hugs like care like love, etc" and came across a tik tok video a friend posted.
First of all this is a work friend and we all know what this person looks like. But she is into this posting of filtered close up selfies the last year or so all glammed up in different outfits and poses.
So this time it was a vid of her in her car with her face so heavily filtered she was blurry and distorted. Other than the name of the person and her typical hairstyle you would not know it was her.
Anyhow, she had some old classic rock song on and was staring at the camera close up and then tilting her head back and forth for about a minute. It was soooo strange, I had to watch it several times thinking "are you really doing this? Is this for real?"
And of course the comments "You are beautiful!" "So sensational" "Beautiful Rock Star." Just comment after comment with loves and hearts. You know they had to be thinking the same thing I was but we all lie and tell them what they want to hear. I didn't have the energy to lie yesterday so I showed it to my husb, shut down fb and went on with life.
It reminded me to stay scarce with any fb pics of myself. Eeegads that was a strange one. I can still see the mysterious filtered head tilting and the song ringing through my head.
I post photos of birds and flowers and other wildlife/nature on FB. I am pretty sure people would rather look at the nest of baby robins I put up yesterday than my 63-year-old head bopping to a song.
Exactly. Tune out the noise. Life is too short for making heads or tails of other people’s stuff. The digital world is full of fake stuff nowadays…from Facebook to tik toc to dating apps. Sometimes it feels like people 60+ years old are the last of the normal people who were raised and lived adulthood outside the digital world.
I’m in my forties; naturally, I’m not anti-social media/tech (nor do I live my life outside the digital world). I consider the use of such ‘normal’ in and of itself relative to business, family, friends, dating and so on. Point being, it’s about connection to people we know (or want to know) - not an obligation to follow/care about strangers (or entitlement to others’ lives). It isn’t psychologically healthy to engage/follow those you believe to be fake or don’t know in-person i.e. for what logical purpose?
Many people share their personal stories on social media. How do you relate to these stories? i know many posters think they “know” these posters by their stories. I think that is only natural. I do as well. But then their stories break down a bit here and there. you begin to wonder if they are making stuff up about themselves, posing to be someone they are not.
How do you react? Do you continue to believe they are who they say they are and believe their sad stories and interact with them the same way?
Why would someone pose as someone else, make up a life story?
The only place I read suspect stories about strangers is here on CD, and I don't relate or interact. All my FB peeps are personal friends or family.
The only place I read suspect stories about strangers is here on CD, and I don't relate or interact.
I don’t consider CD ‘social media’ per se; it’s simply a forum to express opinion (relative to various topics, not people) - although many act entitled to (and discuss/ask/announce) personal information when, in fact, CD’s guidelines specifically state against doing so.
I don’t consider CD ‘social media’ per se; it’s simply a forum to express opinion (relative to various topics, not people) - although many act entitled to (and discuss/ask/announce) personal information when, in fact, CD’s guidelines specifically state against doing so.
CD guidelines state no sharing of personal information? I didnt know that. I think no personal commercials or business announcements, but no sad stories? Really?
I have been told several times in one forum on CD that i post way more than i really should, by the moderator no less, that i have been there long enough and should know better about person A or person B is such and such and has suffered this or that. Frankly i only address posts at face value I dont see the person behind it or remember all their stories. Some I remember because they bring it up often.
Frankly i only address posts at face value I dont see the person behind it or remember all their stories.
A lot of people develop a dislike for a certain screen name, and they will read that person's contributions in a certain voice regardless of what's actually said.
That's pretty sad. There are many times on here where I've been impressed by something or things that someone has written when in the past I got a negative impression from something they wrote. I think that teaches me (and others) we can look beyond personalities and listen to the message.
CD guidelines state no sharing of personal information?
This is not what I stated; you’ll need to read my post again relative to entitlement (or demanding/announcing) of others’ personal information (even if inaccurate) - not simply sharing of such.
I don’t consider CD ‘social media’ per se; it’s simply a forum to express opinion (relative to various topics, not people) - although many act entitled to (and discuss/ask/announce) personal information when, in fact, CD’s guidelines specifically state against doing so.
Of course it is a forum, however personal stories are shared many many times a day here. Many posters discuss them over and over, for days on end. TONS of very personal tales. That is what your OP referenced.
All sorts of things (nonsense, spam, myths, TONS of misinformation) gets posted here on CD. Just like any other social media site, along with opinions. It definitely is a social media site.
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