Yes, it happened. I drove through Cary this morning and pulled up to a stop sign . A small boy at the corner, before stepping out into the crosswalk, looked both ways and then crossed quickly when he was certain it was safe. Cary parents should be proud that your children are so intelligent!!
Would you all please give it a freaking rest??? I am sick and tired (and I do not believe I am alone here) of reading thread after thread of praise. A kid eats his vegetables in Cary and we hear about it. Some obscure ranking comes out and we hear about it. Sure, certain things belong here and are great pieces of information, but I think there's a good likelihood that if a little boy puts the toilet seat down after using the restroom in a public Cary park, we might hear about it here. People here wonder why there is such a negative backlash against many of the Cary promoters and the answer is this: nobody likes a bragger.
I'm not even saying that Cary is worth bragging over (not saying it isn't either, but it's subjective!) but regardless of whether the boasting is founded or not in others' opinions, nobody likes it.
I don't know if I have ever witnessed such a phenomenon before...it's like pre-emptive defensiveness...almost a small-man's complex, going out of one's way to be noticed to the point of being obnoxious.
Everyone is naturally going to be partial to their own decisions - if you decided to spend 400k on a home in Cary, that's a huge decision, and one that you've put a lot of thought in to. Naturally, you are going to think you made the best call and that's great - say so when people ask where they should consider to live...but posting new threads left and right saying "we're number one!" or "we're one of the best this's or that's" just gets abrasive after a while.
If we all go through the pages of this board and find the number of threads started with the sole express purpose of boasting, I promise you Cary leads the charge by a longshot.
Why is this? I'm sure that certain Cary residents will argue that it's because it's the land of milk and honey or the greatest place to live in the world, but even if we accept that to be true, that should be even more of a reason to give it a rest (see: nobody likes a bragger).
I forget who said it, but to paraphrase, someone once said that you aren't the best if you have to keep telling everyone you are the best...
Cary folks (and yes, I am generalizing here, but that's what it seems all of us at CDF like to do...for the sake of this rant, you know who you are) have their "offended-radar" set to ultra-sensitive at all times and I swear you must have an auto-notify feature for the words "beige", "cookie-cutter", or "boring" that lets you know whenever there is a post you have to refute.
While I have no problem with the continual defense of Cary (lord knows, Durham residents deal with stereotypes too) the patterns smack of over-correction when each Cary slight is met with a chorus of rebuttals plus a new salvo of threads proclaiming how great Cary is.
Anyone who follows City-Data closely knows that the board goes in cycles of peace and unrest, and almost ALWAYS the unrest is the result of the inter-city squabbling. Trace this back (I have) and it almost always comes about as a result of certain folks here deciding all at once that they are going to open up the can of Cary propaganda KNOWING that it's going to stir the pot. There are at least 6 user-names I know that have followed this pattern, so to him I say "you bring this on yourself"
All the Cary booster-ing happens, people get ticked off and sick of it, words are thrown around like hand grenades, and the OP wants to be left alone to his wonderful existence in Cary, yet the whole problem would be a moot point if these
Of course, the problem gets even WORSE when the threads are not only bragging, but LYING and bragging. Witness today's thread proclaiming
http://"http://www.city-data.com/for...pel-hill-cary/ where the OP has outright LIED in the title about what the article linked states.
This of course comes on the heels of this little gem,
Cary rated safest place to live where the SAME original poster has again lied, stating that Cary is the safest place to live when in fact it was ranked as the #15 safest place to live among a particular subset of cities under consideration.
So to those of you who wish to engage in discussion about Cary or anything for that matter, I advise you to NOT fictionalize information if you want to involve yourselves in meaningful discussion, provide valuable information to the readers of City-Data, and/or not turn everyone here against you.
Mods, I believe this thread is on-topic and appropriate for this board. It pertains to a local topic, engages a local subject matter, and the title and beginning of this thread references an ACTUAL event that occurred in the triangle this very morning. Furthermore I have engaged in no personal attacks, no commercial selling, nor have I addressed political or religious topics.
Just some friendly advice to improve the City-Data community and doing my part to provide fair and balanced opinions on the triangle area on behalf of all of my fellow posters who want more for/from this board than to let a few misguided posters with agendas derail the good will that typically prevails on these pages.
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But these threads providing false information about Cary, when they are really not talking about it exclusively, are getting old.
