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I dont normally post new threads but something trivial is bothering me this morning and I want to hear what your (enlightened folks of CD) reaction would be to this situation:
You sit down to eat supper at home with your SO. You start to reach for you knife to cut your meat and your SO reaches over and takes your knife to cut their own meat leaving you sitting their waiting. No excuse me may I borrow your knife or getting up and getting their own.
Would you think its funny, acceptable, rude.
Would you think its just mindless ignorance or that on a deeper level that person thinks you are less important.
I'd say that's...odd, but I wouldn't be wondering about it. I'd say straight out "Whadya do that for?"
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Would you think its just mindless ignorance or that on a deeper level that person thinks you are less important.
I'd think that if that concern is voiced, than the real issue is the woman thinks her man sees her as being less important, and the knife is just one small manifestation of that.
Well, is the other person known for joking around abit? My wife and I joke around alot with each so doing something like that(by either one of us) would not be unheard of. If this was not meant as a joke, I would say something to the affect of "get your own damn knife, and leave mine alone".
i am wondering who set the table and why each person didnt get a knife!
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This.
I'm also wondering whether the cutlery was set wrong and he didn't see he had his own knife -- IF he did; if not, then you put a table knife out there for table use.
I'm also wondering why you wouldn't just say "Whoa there -- what gives?"
Hint for life: People who actively take advantage of us often do so because we allow them to. If you learn to stand up for yourself you'll see a whole lot of that behaviour just up and vanish like a fart in the wind.
i am wondering who set the table and why each person didnt get a knife!
We came in from working in the yard. I began cooking supper, he was hungry so fixed and ate a salad then watched TV while I cooked. I set a plate at the table for him with fork and knife. Instead of sitting and eating the plate I put down, he used his salad plate and filled his plate at the stove and got a fork so I began to eat where I had put his plate. He sat down with no kife so took mine.
I did say WTF, he just looked surprised and said he didnt think Id mind.
I should have just taken my knife back, but got pissed instead and went and sat on the porch. Sometimes I react before I think. I did express my thoughts and he apologized and Im sure it will never happen again.
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Hint for life: People who actively take advantage of us often do so because we allow them to.
I have learned this thru life as I have been in relationships where I have been taken advantage of. I believe that is why I may be questioning the significance of this where there may be none.
Sounds lazy to me. Just get up and get a knife of his own, how difficult is that? I would have asked "Would like me to chew that for you too?"
Oh LOL. Tried to rep ya. I wish I would have thought of that. But Im not so cool headed sometimes. Always fighting that little bit of Irish temper I have.
I think you handled it just fine - you called attention to what he did. It was unthinking on his part, IMO, more than the message that you are less important.
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Originally Posted by Coolhand68
Sounds lazy to me. Just get up and get a knife of his own, how difficult is that? I would have asked "Would like me to chew that for you too?"
This made me chuckle out loud because it's EXACTLY the words I would have used.
2mares, it's a small annoyance as, you said. Don't give it more importance by stressing over it. Hopefully how you handled it is enough to let him know to not do that again.
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