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Your life is perfect and you know everyone yet you don't find quality dating partners?
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Originally Posted by Tropical Trouble
Wow, just wow
I have a job where 90% of my co-workers are men. I belong to a running club. I'm on a few different dating websites. I volunteer. I travel (37 countries and counting) and generally meet dozens of new people on each trip. I have a wide circle of friends. Oh, and I post on C-D. None of these things has landed me with dozens of dates. shyyt happens!
My life is great. I am not needy and I am also not ugly (for those who are wondering). However, I'm sorry Ron, but I am not going to date every guy who asks me out (usually from the dating sites). I get contacted by some of the strangest people, and just because they're breathing and have a penis doesn't automatically make them suitable dates. I have standards. By "standards" I don't mean I have some ridiculous list of criteria, but I want someone I find attractive and who I can carry on a conversation with. Someone who approaches me by saying "How U Doin, wanna ****?" doesn't qualify
If you want to get a pilot license or set up a marketing business that's fine if you are doing it for yourself. If you are doing it just so that you'll be able to brag about it to people that's not so good. There nothing I can't stand more than a braggart.
Yup,
it's like one big competition...that cannot be fun.
My most exciting dates were when things just happen.....
I can definitely agree with some of the most exciting things just happen. However, most guys are not just trying to become your friend first and you know that too. lol. Lastly, I will admit that I can be uptight and I feel like when you date you are just trying to prove yourself to someone. What kind of job, car, are you interesting...etc. It is not that great and people in Chicago particularity the Northside can be very snobby. Sorry I know that is where you live
I agree that dating should not be complex, but I disagree that people should be more interesting. A person should be themselves, if this means being boring, so be it. Boring is relative, as is exciting. Everything is subjective. A person who goes out every night and gets wasted may be boring to some.
The thing is that what one finds interesting, another would find boring. If someone is not interested in doing something 'cool' or 'interesting' to expand the number of feathers in their hat, than so be it.
I make friends easily and have many good friends in my life. I also have a good amount of dating possibilities, although I tend to blow most of them off. The thing is that I rarely try to impress anyone. The person you meet in the beginning is the person who I really am. So far, that approach works well.
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Originally Posted by Ron.
Why are you guys so against being a more interesting person?
I thought that would be a good thing.......hmmm
Being 'interesting' needs to stem from a person's own personality. While most people where many hats, it defeats the purpose of being interesting when all you are doing is being interesting for the sake of being interesting. I mean c'mon, is this reality or a Dos XX commercial?
As an aside, I just watched the old Hitchcock film Rebecca. In this film it is the boring, plain, woman who ends up happily married to the obscenely rich guy, and his ex-wife -a woman whom was witty, smart, and the 'most beautiful person that anyone ever saw' that everyone loved- turned out to be a real b**ch and bore.
Go figure.
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