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My husband is becoming more crazy and ridiculous, he criticizes everything now. Criticizes me everyday. Tells me I need to tone up my arms, thighs and stomach. I work out 4days a week, and he gives me know credit. When I get upset about it he tells i'm being too sensitive and i'm childish. He goes through my phone, but yet I can't go through his. He gets mad at me if I"m laughing on the computer(he says I laugh too loud) which is a lie. He doesn't initiate sex at all. He wasn't like this before we got married, he always wanted sex. He doesn't like that I wear extensions, although this is how I have been wearing my hair now for quite a while because my hair was badly damage. He tells me my feet are rough(but he use to rub my feet, but that stopped), every little thing he complains about. Never compliments me. He was not like before we got married. He have became very mean, I don't know how much longer I can deal with him. I thank God that we do not have any children, because I don't think he would be nice to them.
Any married folks on here who can help me out, or give some advice?
Yeah. Tell him to mellow out.
Talk to him, and tell him exactly how you really feel. If he acts like he don`t give a damn, then give him the ultimatum. Change his ways, or get out!
Yeah. Tell him to mellow out.
Talk to him, and tell him exactly how you really feel. If he acts like he don`t give a damn, then give him the ultimatum. Change his ways, or get out!
I'll amend this post by saying "Change his ways or get the F out."
The only thing I can think of way a man would do this is because he doesn't want to be married and is trying to get you to do the "dirty" work. IDK, I could be wrong, but that seems to be the first thing to pop in my head.
Best of luck to you, No one deserves to be nit picked to death.
I'll amend this post by saying "Change his ways or get the F out."
The only thing I can think of way a man would do this is because he doesn't want to be married and is trying to get you to do the "dirty" work. IDK, I could be wrong, but that seems to be the first thing to pop in my head.
Best of luck to you, No one deserves to be nit picked to death.
This is what I'm thinking as well, is that he doesn't want to be married anymore
I would recommend a book by Michele Weiner-Davis: Divorce Busting.
The gist of this book (or any book on the subject that makes sense) is: change your ACTIONS! Whatever you're doing obviously isn't working. Change it! Change it 180 degrees. It already is bad enough, isn't it? It can't get worse, but it just might get better. Solving problems with men by talking is for the birds. Granted, the therapists build mansions out of it, but you're not one of them.
I would recommend a book by Michele Weiner-Davis: Divorce Busting.
The gist of this book (or any book on the subject that makes sense) is: change your ACTIONS! Whatever you're doing obviously isn't working. Change it! Change it 180 degrees. It already is bad enough, isn't it? It can't get worse, but it just might get better. Solving problems with men by talking is for the birds. Granted, the therapists build mansions out of it, but you're not one of them.
I totally agree about changing her actions or better stated her REACTION.
OP, you didn't mention when he started acting this way, but he's getting under your skin and he's getting some kick out of it. I don't want to justify his jerky behavior, but if this has started somewhat recently, I would think that something's up with him (depressed, threatened, unhappy), who knows.
I would recommend a book by Michele Weiner-Davis: Divorce Busting.
The gist of this book (or any book on the subject that makes sense) is: change your ACTIONS! Whatever you're doing obviously isn't working. Change it! Change it 180 degrees. It already is bad enough, isn't it? It can't get worse, but it just might get better. Solving problems with men by talking is for the birds. Granted, the therapists build mansions out of it, but you're not one of them.
Yep. Go read a book to help you out of your major marriage problems, instead of directly communicating with him? Not!!
Communication is the *key* to any happy marriage. Good luck!!
If you want me to be blunt, I will: It sounds like your husband is either in love with someone else or is having an affair. I went through the same thing with my ex-H--the constant criticism, no sex (for an entire year once), etc. He was also a white-collar drug addict, so I wrote it off to his addiction. But I was wrong, entirely wrong.
Don't fall into the trap of perpetual self-improvement. Make yourself better for YOU, never another person. If he's this critical, once you fix one thing, it'll be something else. You could get an entire physical overhaul, and he'd be picking at you for the way you pronounce the word "yellow" or some b.s. thing like that.
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