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Methinks you're confusing strippers with women who like to dance.
Nope. Any woman who "loves" to dance, for some reason "needs" to do it in public. IF you ask her, if you love the dancing, why don't you just dance at home to music? And they always say "it's not the same" because you don't have the attention of others at home. it's not about dancing, its about attention, otherwise they would do it at home.
Actually, ChessieMom and Mandaravan BOTH have valid points, although Mandaravan's isn't politically correct and therefore comes across as unappealing.
In ChessieMom's statement, there's something sexy and confident about a man who can dance and doesn't have to be pushed onto the floor -- and she's right. It's exhibited in womens' attraction NOT just to men who are really dance-capable, although that does attract attention; but in womens' attraction to even great, lumbering klutzes (klutzi?) who get up and waddle without having to be dragged. Women STILL respond to that, despite that it's NOT as eye-catching as that guy who's a dance-teacher and really tears the floor up.
However...
There's still an attention factor present, it's just one of those things we're not supposed to mention. Women respond to their guy positively if he gets up and dances, even if he doesn't dance well, because it requires confidence to do that.
However, as with ANY Alpha demonstration in ANY scenario or setting, whether the dance floor or the playing field, or the kitchen, or the garage -- women respond positively to capability.
They just enjoy attention, too. I was once being fussed at by a woman who was informing me of ALL THE TROUBLE women go to in order to dress up nicely for men, how they bend over backwards and put themselves through the ringer and it's for the benefit of MEN.
So I asked her why women are scoping out the other pretty women in a social setting even faster than the men do so. Because it's TRUE, women DO this.
She froze for several seconds and then finally said "Oh... I never thought of it that way..."
Because ladies? While we DO love it when you look good -- yes we do -- it takes a LOT less to please us than it does to out-do the so-called "competition".
That tells ME it's less about us and more about other women eyeballing and evaluating you, which means attention.
I think, however, this CHANGES as women age and their priorities shift. I think as women age they're much more concerned (thank GOD) about the man himself and what he has to offer (in reciprocation rather than pure profit) than they are about the erstwhile "competition". They become more concerned about the partner he'll make long-term than about the short-term concerns.
it's not about dancing, its about attention, otherwise they would do it at home.
Not necessarily. Why eat at a restaurant when you could eat at home? Why go to a movie when you could watch a DVD on your couch? Why go to a concert when you could listen to your ipod? Sometimes a shared experience is more fun and memorable, and it has nothing to do with getting attention.
Nope. Any woman who "loves" to dance, for some reason "needs" to do it in public. IF you ask her, if you love the dancing, why don't you just dance at home to music? And they always say "it's not the same" because you don't have the attention of others at home. it's not about dancing, its about attention, otherwise they would do it at home.
Correct yourself. It's not any, it's many. There's a remarkable difference.
Not necessarily. Why eat at a restaurant when you could eat at home? Why go to a movie when you could watch a DVD on your couch? Why go to a concert when you could listen to your ipod? Sometimes a shared experience is more fun and memorable, and it has nothing to do with getting attention.
She has a point, Beta -- it goes with the thing I just mentioned.
Nope. Any woman who "loves" to dance, for some reason "needs" to do it in public. IF you ask her, if you love the dancing, why don't you just dance at home to music? And they always say "it's not the same" because you don't have the attention of others at home. it's not about dancing, its about attention, otherwise they would do it at home.
That's just a ridiculous statement, sorry. I love to dance and I do it at home more than I do it if I go out. For me it's about the music, the mood it puts you in and how it makes you want to move your body. I can dance alone with my iPod on, dance with my family and friends around or dance in a club and don't have a preference.
She has a point, Beta -- it goes with the thing I just mentioned.
Yet dancing at home with a guy isn't good enough..
The real reason is becaues you don't get attention dancing at home..
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