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Lol, really? But don't the guys here ever get lonely though at all, and dream of sweet wedded domestic bliss, to the one most special, treasured girl in their hearts, and to raise a loving family with and to grow old together with? I know I do -- I literally dream of almost exactly that, every day -- very much! (I know, I know; guilty as charged...I readily confess, to being a hopeless romantic at heart )
Are you talking about marriage or acquiring a talking doll to play with?
Are you talking about marriage or acquiring a talking doll to play with?
He's young and as he said, a hopeless romantic. Which is cool.
There are the multitude of many who enter marriage and sometimes it doesn't work but when it does it can be remarkable. I married in my early 20's and my wife was 20 and at that age I was mature but naive to the ways of the world. What a nice long strange trip it's been.
We made it work wonderfully and I like to believe others can also. I'm still a hopeless romantic, just a lot more experienced and realistic. That will happen to Knight also.
The talking doll can come later to add a new twist to their relationship. Hopefully he's got some sense of reality.
In my marriage I want a girl that is financially sound, can help make wise decisions (because I get indecisive), can cook or bring me coffee when I'm working as time permits, and someone that is open with their feelings and can talk, no bottling it up. Doesn't have to match what I bring to the table but at least try and be logical.
Also, must look good, not be straight edge, and not be self centered. I still haven't found anyone remotely close.
For me, most important is girl who is "sweet", which for me is a combination of optimism, youthfulness, happiness, cuteness, affection, and kindness. Hard to describe, but I'll take that over money, education, or sex appeal anyday.
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He's young and as he said, a hopeless romantic. Which is cool.
There are the multitude of many who enter marriage and sometimes it doesn't work but when it does it can be remarkable. I married in my early 20's and my wife was 20 and at that age I was mature but naive to the ways of the world. What a nice long strange trip it's been.
We made it work wonderfully and I like to believe others can also. I'm still a hopeless romantic, just a lot more experienced and realistic. That will happen to Knight also.
The talking doll can come later to add a new twist to their relationship. Hopefully he's got some sense of reality.
Young, hopeless romantics need a shot of reality before even thinking about getting married. It's not all "bliss," and it's not all "wheeeee, yayyyyy, let's play house and I can be the daddy and you can be the mommy and our kids will be Susie and Johnny and we're all going to live happily ever after, woo-hoooooo!"
Doesn't work like that. There are values, goals, and beliefs to consider, bills to pay, chores to be done, other family members to contend with, parents who will one day get sick and need care (if it doesn't happen to one of the spouses, first), investments to make (including cars and homes), jobs and careers to account for, catastrophes to be dealt with, and, when raising kids, discipline to deliver, never mind the whole issue of sexual compatibility in a permanent monogamous relationship, or, *gasp* "fighting style" when they have *OMG!* disagreements.
When I read stuff like the OP's post and Union Federal's, I think, "Yep, and in three years, they'll be complaining on C-D about how marriage isn't what they thought it would be and saying their wives have 'changed' because these guys have unrealistic expectations going into it. They want dolls and support systems, not human beings, flaws and all, to be partners."
Am I saying marriage is a bad thing? Meh. If someone wants it, go for it. Some people are very happy with it, and more power to 'em.
But from all I've seen, the people who make the best shot of it are people who go into it with their eyes open and who have already weathered a few storms together, not those who get smitten, start daydreaming about "bliss," and pop the question before they've dealt with anything difficult or had a chance to see how their partner handles hardship or a crisis.
So, to Lex, I say, "Yeah, yeah. Reality bites. Deal with it."
Girls,what do you most want in a *husband* (not a b/f)? haha~
A level-headed, intelligent, responsible neatnik whom I am physically attracted to and whose values, beliefs, politics, sexual style, need for personal and mental space, and sense of humor either complement or match mine.
Methinks perhaps you assume too much Avienne I am 100% all for everything that would come with a marriage...the good *and* the bad. After all, isn't that what people really mean, when they say their wedding vows? "For better or worse". "For richer or poorer". "In sickness and in health". "Till death do us part". If I am blessed with the opportunity to actually be able to say my wedding vows in the future, I want to mean them most wholeheartedly, and with all me. I know there will be good times, and bad times too...it's not a problem. Every couple, married or in a serious relationship together, will have their fair share of disagreements, arguments, and bad days. What's really important at the end of the day is their ability to deal with, and work through, all of those challenges, together.
ETA: why so jaded though Avienne? After 3 years of being married to someone, I have 100% faith that I would feel the exact same way about her, as I did the day I were marry her...it's not like I'm gonna magically change somehow, in 3 years' time after all That's actually where the "hopeless romantic" part comes in very handily, IMO
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Originally Posted by Avienne
Young, hopeless romantics need a shot of reality before even thinking about getting married. It's not all "bliss," and it's not all "wheeeee, yayyyyy, let's play house and I can be the daddy and you can be the mommy and our kids will be Susie and Johnny and we're all going to live happily ever after, woo-hoooooo!"
Doesn't work like that. There are values, goals, and beliefs to consider, bills to pay, chores to be done, other family members to contend with, parents who will one day get sick and need care (if it doesn't happen to one of the spouses, first), investments to make (including cars and homes), jobs and careers to account for, catastrophes to be dealt with, and, when raising kids, discipline to deliver, never mind the whole issue of sexual compatibility in a permanent monogamous relationship, or, *gasp* "fighting style" when they have *OMG!* disagreements.
When I read stuff like the OP's post and Union Federal's, I think, "Yep, and in three years, they'll be complaining on C-D about how marriage isn't what they thought it would be and saying their wives have 'changed' because these guys have unrealistic expectations going into it. They want dolls and support systems, not human beings, flaws and all, to be partners."
Am I saying marriage is a bad thing? Meh. If someone wants it, go for it. Some people are very happy with it, and more power to 'em.
But from all I've seen, the people who make the best shot of it are people who go into it with their eyes open and who have already weathered a few storms together, not those who get smitten, start daydreaming about "bliss," and pop the question before they've dealt with anything difficult or had a chance to see how their partner handles hardship or a crisis.
So, to Lex, I say, "Yeah, yeah. Reality bites. Deal with it."
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I know I do -- I literally dream of almost exactly that, every day -- very much! 
)
He's definitely looking for marriage....
Because I put my money where my mouth is...
