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If someone commits an immoral act such as bullying or harassment (i.e., spreading gossip or rumors, cussing at, arguing back, being rude and sarcastic, shouting at, talking smack on Facebook, etc.) against a female bully or a female who is perceived to be the instigator of bullying do you feel sorry for her and take her side, demand justice, and fight by her side until the end? Or do you say "She deserves the consequences. This is her battle let her deal with it since she started it or since it's her issue."
I've personally seen so much female bullying starting in high school. I've also seen many people come to the aid and assistance of female bullies. And, I personally have always been perplexed and bewildered when people turn a blind eye and a deaf ear to it. I've seen it in college and I've seen women bully their sad sap husbands. Then you hear about those rare cases about men getting revenge by posting some junk up on Facebook and everybody goes insane and points fingers at the man for being a horrible criminal who needs to die off in prison. Yet the female bully is almost always coddled and protected and defended?? It's so pathetic IMHO.
I somewhat feel sorry for any bully, regardless of gender. I have to wonder what happened to them that they feel the need to "kick the dog"--to pick on those they feel are beneath them, that they think they can overpower.
This isn't to say that they shouldn't get their just desserts, and if the "victim" returns fire, then it isn't "bullying" any longer, it's simple defense.
That being said--if it happens to someone else, it isn't any of my business.
You say "female bully", but in the body of your question, you change it around to suggest that if the woman does anything to **** off some guy, then any act of retaliation against her is justified. Can't accept that, sorry.
What I get from this board is that, whenever we have a story of a woman's revenge against a man who wronged her in some way, the condemnation of her as crazy and unhinged is almost universal. But switch the genders, and it seems that the majority considers a man's retaliation against a woman almost always deserved, no matter how grossly out of proportion to the original harm suffered. So spare me.
Personally, I think revenge is overrated, and as a practical matter, it's virtually impossible to control all the consequences. The story of John Ziegler, a radio talk show host, comes to mind. So peeved was he that his girlfriend had the temerity to get multiple sclerosis and become too busy with doctors' appointments to continue their relationship, that he felt compelled to go on the air and devote a portion of his program to discussing her genitals in excruciating detail. The result was a lawsuit, which was lost, of course, mostly on First Amendment grounds -- but because it generated publicity, Ziegler was unable to get a date for several years. In interviews during that time period, he blamed women's supposed irrationality and hatred of the truth for his celibate state. (Because, staying the hell away from a man with a history of using his radio talk show to pillory a woman who was too sick to have sex with him is TOTALLY irrational. [/end sarcasm])
It's best to stay out of other people's fights. Especially cat fights. If it's a workplace bully, they generally deserve whatever they get, and a domestic type relationship is just a couple that likes drama.
This isn't to say that they shouldn't get their just desserts, and if the "victim" returns fire, then it isn't "bullying" any longer, it's simple defense.
You say "female bully", but in the body of your question, you change it around to suggest that if the woman does anything to **** off some guy, then any act of retaliation against her is justified. Can't accept that, sorry.
What I get from this board is that, whenever we have a story of a woman's revenge against a man who wronged her in some way, the condemnation of her as crazy and unhinged is almost universal. But switch the genders, and it seems that the majority considers a man's retaliation against a woman almost always deserved, no matter how grossly out of proportion to the original harm suffered. So spare me.
Personally, I think revenge is overrated, and as a practical matter, it's virtually impossible to control all the consequences. The story of John Ziegler, a radio talk show host, comes to mind. So peeved was he that his girlfriend had the temerity to get multiple sclerosis and become too busy with doctors' appointments to continue their relationship, that he felt compelled to go on the air and devote a portion of his program to discussing her genitals in excruciating detail. The result was a lawsuit, which was lost, of course, mostly on First Amendment grounds -- but because it generated publicity, Ziegler was unable to get a date for several years. In interviews during that time period, he blamed women's supposed irrationality and hatred of the truth for his celibate state. (Because, staying the hell away from a man with a history of using his radio talk show to pillory a woman who was too sick to have sex with him is TOTALLY irrational. [/end sarcasm])
She didn't win the lawsuit, but I love the poetic justice there.
As I mentioned in another thread, there is nothing worse than a mob mentality....
It should be between the two only, as in any argument, people who take sides or get in the way, usually end up looking like a fool, or end up being the one outted themselves once the origional two work things out...
I think that bullying is natural and that people should develop the means to handle it when it arises.
I wouldn't feel sorry for the female bully, why should I? Human society is that actions have reactions.
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