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Old 12-11-2010, 11:02 AM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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There's a guy in your life; a friend, co-worker, classmate, etc. that likes you. You're not interested in him romantically. If he plays his cards right by keeping a safe distance and not smothering you does he stand a chance of ever winning your affections or is the line pretty much drawn in the sand?
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Old 12-11-2010, 11:07 AM
 
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Totally depends on each individual person and the location. There is NO general rule about these things. If I worked with you your chances are less than the others and then it would depend on how I feel about you.
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Old 12-11-2010, 12:27 PM
 
Location: North America
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There's a guy in your life; a friend, co-worker, classmate, etc. that likes you. You're not interested in him romantically. If he plays his cards right by keeping a safe distance and not smothering you does he stand a chance of ever winning your affections or is the line pretty much drawn in the sand?
There are 3.4 billion other women out there. Many, many, are sure to like you back.
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Old 12-11-2010, 01:25 PM
 
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if you are willing to jump in front of a bus for me or if your heart is made of gold - yes.

otherwise - no.
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Old 12-11-2010, 01:27 PM
 
Location: South FL
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There's a guy in your life; a friend, co-worker, classmate, etc. that likes you. You're not interested in him romantically. If he plays his cards right by keeping a safe distance and not smothering you does he stand a chance of ever winning your affections or is the line pretty much drawn in the sand?
Providing that I was single, yes, it's very possible. Couple of my previous relationships started this way. I didn't initially feel an attraction, but after awhile, started noticing some wonderful things that he did or said and how he respected my space that warmed me up to him and I started feeling an attraction.
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Old 12-11-2010, 01:49 PM
 
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i think it denotes low confidence, and if you wish to control and manipulate people like that, she may automatically friendzone you lol..

You can't force somebody into liking you.
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Old 12-11-2010, 03:10 PM
 
Location: Southern Illinois
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My understanding is that men will make their decision about a woman almost right away, but women take much longer to assess a man's qualities, so I'm thinking that if you haven't done something to turn her off, you could win her affections over time. My ex was my friend (w/o benefits!) for 7 years before we got together, so anything can happen. If you know she loves animals and you save a kitten from a tree, you could surely win her love, lol.
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Old 12-11-2010, 03:19 PM
 
Location: state of procrastination
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The answer is.... NOOOOO
Unless there is a game changer.
like he gets really buff / hot. Or he becomes more successful.
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Old 12-11-2010, 03:24 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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My ex was my friend (w/o benefits!) for 7 years before we got together, so anything can happen.
You know, Stepka, with all due respect, I don't think it's fair to others to give them examples they presume apply to straight men when in reality the guy in question is at least bi and you've mentioned that yourself.
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Old 12-11-2010, 04:32 PM
 
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You better be some kind of attractive guy whether it be face wise or personality wise. If not, then good luck. Bondurant i suggest you date nice women with low self esteem, they seem your type.
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