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Originally Posted by Axle grease
I think the BF should hack her password and get into her private emails. It's a two way street.
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I'm sure she wouldn't mind showing him her FB if he asked. If he had shown her his FB when she asked she wouldn't have to snoop. There is a cause and effect thing going on here too - him acting secretive being the cause. To make it absolutely fair she should also act secretive and tell him that anything he wants out of the relationship is BS, right?
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Originally Posted by neongumbo
i went through the same thing with my ex, he wrote an email to his friend making fun of me because i acted like his shadow "followed him around and did everything he did" but when we were a lone he acted entirely different he was extremely nice and put me first. when i confronted him about the emails he said it was "just a joke".
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Is that why he is now your ex? Sounds two-faced.
I asked DH and he says he has NEVER heard any of his guy friends talk smack about their wives and gfs. Maybe concerns at best. But never anything disrespectful. They are always proud to show off their SO to their family and friends.
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Originally Posted by thewaywewere
the emails are from his fb. he's very into facebook and serch/follow the gilrs he was(and prob still is) interested in which is many.... what bothers me is he's very parinoid about me looking at his fb when he's using it. he freaks out if i try to look at his bf account which make me feel there's something hidden.
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You should really start demanding more for yourself out of this relationship... honestly he sounds so selfish.
Here are the bad signs:
- Never introduced me to his friends but introduced me to his daughter
- never calls/email/ text between dates
- avoiding kissing (to me that says, avoiding face to face intimacy)
If you feel like you aren't getting as much out of the relationship I think you should consider no longer being exclusive, unless he corrects the above. He needs to introduce you to his friends, keep in touch daily.
Why would he avoid kissing (assuming that your oral hygiene is fine)? Have you asked him that? Why does he avoid sex but not oral sex? What does he do on days that he does not see you? Is he so busy that he can't send a quick 5 second text message? That is so ridiculous!
I've never liked it when a guy decides he gets to "define" the relationship and the girl doesn't get any say. I hope he is not the type of guy who gets his sexual fulfillment and then asks you to go home because you can't stay overnight. It's time for you to start defining things. I mean, he's the one who is with the kid. He should be proud to find a woman who is able to accept that. What is his problem!!!
Here is what I'd do:
1) Under no circumstance should you nag him about any of this. Take the happy approach. You will be happier too.
2) Tell him you would
love to meet his friends and set a timeframe for this to happen. Just be very happy and enthusiastic about it even if you have to fake it.
3) Start calling him or sending him 1-2 text messages on days you don't see each other. Even if he doesn't respond, keep sending things like "Miss you!" or "Hope you are having a great day" or "Thinking about you!" Maybe he will get into the habit.
4) Decide if it is acceptable that he doesn't want to kiss very much. If it is very important, you should have a talk about it and get to the bottom of it. Your approach should not nag, but tell him how much you really appreciate and loves it when he kisses you. Make it a positive reinforcement.
5) I really don't like the fact he keeps a lot of girls that he may be interested in on FB. Maybe he is, maybe he's not. But you should add them too and see what he does. Just say you think they are pretty/cute and you have the right to look at pretty things too, if he asks why you are doing it.