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I like affection in moderation. I'm not much for PDA though, besides holding hands and a kiss here and there.
ha, I sound like my mother...oh geeze..
Lol...in my original post, I didn't necessarily mean PDA. That's a good point though -- although I love lot of affectionate cuddling, holding, etc. with that special someone, I'm honestly not really that much of a fan of PDA either
No, no, no. Yuck no. Sorry, I don't want any needy person hanging on me. If I had someone constantly rubbing my back, staring at me, patting my hand, kissing me, etc. while in public, I would lose it. For me, that would be too confining.
Now once we're in private and we're having our moment, sure bring it on. But I wouldn't want that touchy feely all the time that we're alone. That would again make me feel trapped.
Heheh, again I didn't mean in public In private, I'm all for being cuddly and affectionate, but would certainly respect someone's wishes if they preferred expressing it more moderately.
If there is chemistry between you then it's flirty and fun, but if you don't know him well or don't have a playful relationship then he is overstepping the mark.
For example, if you don't respond with your own touchy-feely gestures, or you step backwards or flinch when he touches you, but he ignores your response and continues to invade your personal comfort zone, then he is insensitive at best and creepy at worst.
I find aloofness irritating. Used to like it, though...when I was younger, and assumed that the aloofness would melt away because he luuuuuuuuvs me, and the affectionate dude within would come out. Ah, youth.
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I find aloofness irritating. Used to like it, though...when I was younger, and assumed that the aloofness would melt away because he luuuuuuuuvs me, and the affectionate dude within would come out. Ah, youth.
I'm touchy feely with my fiance. I don't hang onto her for dear life or anything. we do hold hands, we kiss and yes, we even cuddle. Do I do it because I'm needy? No. I find it as a way to express how I feel. I love my fiance and I don't want to just tell her, I want to show her.
With that said, she hangs out with her friends and I hang out with mine. we aren't calling each other every 5 minutes and neither of us is scared that the other is just going to up and leave. We talk and share our feelings and thoughts. We respect and love one another.
So if anyone believes that makes emotionally imature so be it. For us, it works. And I for one will never shy away from how I honestly feel.
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In private, I'm all for being cuddly and affectionate, but would certainly respect someone's wishes if they preferred expressing it more moderately.
It has to be done in the right context...
