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Originally Posted by miu
My preference for not having a relationship with a man in a wheelchair has nothing at all to do with worrying about him not being about to satisfy me sexually. It's more to do with all the other activities of life. My lifestyle activities are not wheelchair friendly. I can't take a man in a wheelchair out clubbing and dancing. He can't go play in racecars with me. He can't go with me when I take my dogs out for country walks. My house is not wheelchair friendly and I'm not planning on moving or remodeling it. My car isn't wheelchair friendly and when I go on roadtrips, I will not compromise my driving pleasure by driving or riding in his wheelchair van.
And just as you men whine about needing to find a woman attractive and sexy before dating her, how can you expect us to find a man in a wheelchair (or chronically unemployed) sexy or appealing as a mate? Because that's your excuse for not dating women that are fat or not perfect tens.
Seeking a platonic friendship and hiding ones physical disabilities is fine for not being upfront about it, however this wheelchair bound man was on a romantic dating site, not being fully upfront about his handicap and sending romantic "kisses" to women.
AND... if the O.P. felt misled, then she was. Now she's in the position of telling this man that she isn't interested in dating a man in a wheelchair, and being made to feel guilty about it. Again, she found his face attractive enough, but didn't care for the rest of his body... whether it was in a wheelchair of him being overweight or too short. She just doesn't find his total body package attractive enough to want to pursue a romantic relationship with. That magic just isn't there for her.
Plus he lives farther away than she stated in her profile that she wanted to date. So even if he wasn't in a wheelchair, he'd have to be extra appealing to her in some way in order for her to want to enter into a relationship with and drive the extra distance.
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This is just not true. You're basing your opinions off misconceptions. Wheelchairs users
can go clubbing and dancing. Look up "wheelchair dancing" on YouTube. Most paraplegics can drive, so I imagine they can race cars too. You can get a wheelchair friendly car. It's called hand controls. I suggest you educate yourself more on disability before writing off all disabled people.
If you don't want to date a wheelie, just say so. Don't come up with excuses. Don't make up things that aren't even true. If you're not attracted to wheelies, that's fine. Just be honest with yourself and others.
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