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Definition of a ladies man: A man who enjoys spending time with women and who wants them to find him sexually attractive. (Macmillan Dictionary - American definition)
So if you want to be a ladies man but don't want to have sex - perhaps you're a sadist??
No, I don't understand your reasoning. You not ashamed to wear them or let other people know you wear them but you won't BUY them. huh..no, sorry, I don't get your logic on this issue.
I don't know how to explain it. I just think there's something different about buying them and having the cashier assume they're for me.
I thought of an explanation: The people that know me shouldn't be shocked that I wear girl pants. But the cashier is someone I don't know, so I would feel awkward if the cashier assumed the pants were for me.
Last edited by city_data91; 01-17-2011 at 04:13 PM..
There's not a big difference between couples and friends. Think about it for a second.
There are times when I went out and did a social event with a group of people (a mix of couples and friends). Aside from kissing/hand-holding, you'd never guess who was dating and who was just friends. The way the couple interacted with each other was not much different than the way they interact with friends. To an outsider at these social activities, they would have a hard time guessing who the couples were if it weren't for the public displays of affection.
Long story, but there was a time when I had to pretend to be in a relationship with one of my friends. The way I interacted with her was not much different than the way I normally interact with her. The only difference is we went shopping and pretended it was our anniversary. I'm pretty sure we had the people at the store fooled, without much effort.
The way I see it, boyfriend/girlfriend is just a term people use as a self-esteem booster to make them feel better about themselves. Sure, they call each other boyfriend and girlfriend, but their relationship is not much different than a relationship with a friend.
A boyfriend/girlfriend is just a friend who you happen to be attracted to. But even that's an oversimplified view. Two friends could be attracted to each other but not be a couple for whatever reason.
Another poster made a thread about how he's been going to dinner with a girl but they're just friends, and he was worried she might get the wrong idea and think they're dating. If there was such a distinct difference between friends and couples, it would be clear to her where they stand. The point is they're doing something friends or couples could do. Whether they were friends or dating, what difference does it make? Either way, they're going out to dinner. As I said on that thread, a boyfriend/girlfriend is just a glorified friend.
This isn't always true, but it is interesting to be noted. I remember awhile back I went to this California beach town and noticed all the little couples. When I thought about it, I asked a friend "why do people who date each other act like they would as if they were just friends?" This isn't true for everyone, but I had noticed so many couples that just acted like friends.
Some people are just bored and need someone to be around. Others maybe don't want to show too much affection in public. There are numerous reasons to having the boyfriend/girlfriend title. Not all of them just need a title or someone to drag around, but that isn't an uncommon reason.
This isn't always true, but it is interesting to be noted. I remember awhile back I went to this California beach town and noticed all the little couples. When I thought about it, I asked a friend "why do people who date each other act like they would as if they were just friends?" This isn't true for everyone, but I had noticed so many couples that just acted like friends.
Some people are just bored and need someone to be around. Others maybe don't want to show too much affection in public. There are numerous reasons to having the boyfriend/girlfriend title. Not all of them just need a title or someone to drag around, but that isn't an uncommon reason.
What you're saying is...me and a friend could decide to call each other boyfriend/girlfriend, and we would be no different than some of these couples you saw in California?
What you're saying is...me and a friend could decide to call each other boyfriend/girlfriend, and we would be no different than some of these couples you saw in California?
Sure. What I noticed about the couples that we were observing was that they had nothing special about their relationship. While not every couple is like this, many of the ones we noticed were basically just friends who just had something in common enough to call each other boyfriend and girlfriend.
There's all sorts of factors as to why people are in a relationship(physical attraction, how long they've known each other, personalities), so as a theory it can get pretty complicated.
Last edited by Lovely95; 01-17-2011 at 04:36 PM..
Reason: another point
I must have missed the memo that said, when you are comfortable with your SO, and treat them as your best friend there is something wrong with the relationship
I must have missed the memo that said, when you are comfortable with your SO, and treat them as your best friend there is something wrong with the relationship
That's not what I'm saying.
Your SO is your best friend (maybe not always). But you're also more than friends.
If all you're looking to do is treat your SO like a best friend, why not be just friends?
Your SO is your best friend (maybe not always). But you're also more than friends.
If all you're looking to do is treat your SO like a best friend, why not be just friends?
What you see is a tiny snippet of a relationship.
Really, its best not to judge. Live it first, then you'll know the difference.
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