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Some days I wonder what the point is in trying to find a person anymore. I can't seem to make any of the connections I make turn into friendships. People seem to just take a passing interest in me. And I always blow it with women - always. There have been a couple times where a girl has been interested in me and I just don't do anything about it. Hell, there was this girl I've mentioned umpteen times now on this forum who at first seemed really nice and we had some nice conversations, then somehow it just never went anywhere and we stopped talking. I have had a girlfriend, but we ended things. Do I miss her? No. She was too much to handle for a multitude of reasons. What I do miss is feeling like I matter to someone beyond my family.
I've tried telling this to the few friends I have but it doesn't really help. I don't even feel comfortable telling this to most of my friends, and the few that I am comfortable telling this to are just as bad as me.
Does anyone else feel like there's very little point in going on? Despite all that I just said I still wanna succeed in school, get a good job and at least live a decent life even if I'm alone. It's just that after having had one social failure after another, I'm questioning if it's a fool's errand to keep on trying.
Yes, it will not get better till you give up. And you should not be looking for love when in school.
When you quit trying is when you will finally loose the scent of desperation that is attached to you. There is a lot of people out there and no need to make compromises or concessions.
It's not a fool's errand. Good GOD man...you are very very young yet...and already you are wondering if "that is all there is". How does someone so young get to be so disappointed with life? When I was 18, I guess I had had a few boyfriends...though all were relatively short-lived affairs (as they usually are at that age). No real love came along until 19, and even then, I'd skip that one if I could have a do-over.
Seriously...you have your whole dang life ahead of you. Good grief give it a chance.
meh, I gave up a long time ago, though I always have my eyes open. Too many good men in my town are already married by 25. I'll have to wait till I graduate when I'm 27 and can move to a city with more single young professionals, and maybe then it'll get better.
In a nutshell, I feel you! but you're younger than me and you're male, you will get the ladies soon enough!
@Chessie and Mir, people have been telling me that things will get better than to keep giving life a chance but so far that hasn't happened. First high school was supposed to be better than middle school, then college is supposed to be better than high school (and in a way it is, but not socially), then what?
Some days I wonder what the point is in trying to find a person anymore. I can't seem to make any of the connections I make turn into friendships. People seem to just take a passing interest in me. And I always blow it with women - always. There have been a couple times where a girl has been interested in me and I just don't do anything about it. Hell, there was this girl I've mentioned umpteen times now on this forum who at first seemed really nice and we had some nice conversations, then somehow it just never went anywhere and we stopped talking. I have had a girlfriend, but we ended things. Do I miss her? No. She was too much to handle for a multitude of reasons. What I do miss is feeling like I matter to someone beyond my family.
I've tried telling this to the few friends I have but it doesn't really help. I don't even feel comfortable telling this to most of my friends, and the few that I am comfortable telling this to are just as bad as me.
Does anyone else feel like there's very little point in going on? Despite all that I just said I still wanna succeed in school, get a good job and at least live a decent life even if I'm alone. It's just that after having had one social failure after another, I'm questioning if it's a fool's errand to keep on trying.
You have another thread going on about being a loner. Very good advice in that thread. You need to make up your mind that you want to change your situation in life. Read books on how to interact with people, get affirmation books, relationship books, etc. Find something that really interest you and you'd like to learn how to do that. Or find a history era that you love and read all about it. Find something interesting to learn.
Once you have something to talk about, then you can meet up with people that share your interest and be able to talk about the subject.
It's your life, you can change it but you have to make the first step no matter how hard it is.
Also you are so obsessing about having a girlfriend that you're not looking around you and enjoying your life NOW. Don't get desperate, overanalyze, needy or any other trait that turns people off. Just be yourself and enjoy your life.
@Chessie and Mir, people have been telling me that things will get better than to keep giving life a chance but so far that hasn't happened. First high school was supposed to be better than middle school, then college is supposed to be better than high school (and in a way it is, but not socially), then what?
It will! Have faith in yourself man! You sound like a smart kid who is hard working and has a lot to offer someone. Trust me, someone will be attracted to you! College is supposed to be fun, regardless of how dating goes. Go out there and have fun, join school clubs (I joined dance and made TONS of lasting friendships), network for a job prospect upon graduation and you'll expand your social network and who knows where (or who) that could you to.
I've tried joining school clubs but almost all of them meet late. As any commuter will tell you, that isn't a good thing. I am active in one club though. But like every other endeavor to make friends, it hasn't resulted in much.
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How does someone so young get to be so disappointed with life? 
When I was 18, I guess I had had a few boyfriends...though all were relatively short-lived affairs (as they usually are at that age). No real love came along until 19, and even then, I'd skip that one if I could have a do-over. 
