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I've known this woman for a while, and consider her a friend. However, she has conservative sexual ethics, and doesn't really believe in sex before marriage. Her bf/SO however is more liberal sexually, and from time to time (when he was single) visited rub and tug places (if one gets my meaning) for kicks. He lived in a country where it is legal, however she was not happy when she found out initially. However, she mellowed after a while and now doesn't think much of it.
But in this scenario, can they have a full sexual relationship if his desires/tastes are different to hers?
I don't see why they couldn't. They need to talk it through and make sure they can each agree that it will work out okay, even if it means compromise on one or both sides. But it sounds to me like she's gotten over it, and sounds like he doesn't practice the same thing he did before. They must have at least somewhat worked it out already, no?
I've known this woman for a while, and consider her a friend. However, she has conservative sexual ethics, and doesn't really believe in sex before marriage. Her bf/SO however is more liberal sexually, and from time to time (when he was single) visited rub and tug places (if one gets my meaning) for kicks. He lived in a country where it is legal, however she was not happy when she found out initially. However, she mellowed after a while and now doesn't think much of it.
But in this scenario, can they have a full sexual relationship if his desires/tastes are different to hers?
Sure, why not, if they mutually love and respect each other? No reason comes to mind why it couldn't work, so long as he understands and resepcts her belief system...
Of course. But the difference as stated may not be the only difference sexually between them. If he suggests something he likes, which she may frown on based on her beliefs, then what happens then? His beliefs are not wild or far out, but basically believes that whatever consenting adults agree to is their own business.
Of course. But the difference as stated may not be the only difference sexually between them. If he suggests something he likes, which she may frown on based on her beliefs, then what happens then? His beliefs are not wild or far out, but basically believes that whatever consenting adults agree to is their own business.
My problems come in when a lover does something or suggests something I can tell came from their watching porn, or in the case of the people you mention, something he learned going to the establishments you mention. Leaves me cold and totally turned off.
I feel like the kind of sex I like and the kind of sex someone like you are talking about likes are two different languages. Sex means something to me, more then a release, its a commitment, a physical manifestation of my love for my partner. Why would I share that with someone who thinks of it in different more casual terms.
I do not worry about my friends and neighbors having compatible sexual relationships.
Are you really worried about the friends or is this closer to home?
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But the difference as stated may not be the only difference sexually between them. If he suggests something he likes, which she may frown on based on her beliefs, then what happens then? His beliefs are not wild or far out, but basically believes that whatever consenting adults agree to is their own business.
