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Do you cater to your man when he is at your house?, and does he cater to you when your at his house?
Whenever my boyfriend comes over I will serve him and pick up his plate after him, but he does the same thing for me when Im at his house.
If I spend the nite at his house, I will iron his clothes, he hates to iron and Im big on ironing.
He will make me coffee and bring the coffee to me. He hates coffee.
He will wash my clothes for me, I have several outfits at his house
My sister asked me is there anything I wont compromise on?
Friends I had before I met him, and friends he had before he met me, I will still talk to my guy friends, and he still talks to his girl friends.
I told her religion and financial, because his beliefs are his and mine are mine, and his money is his and mine is mine. I wont ask him to pay my bills and he wont ask me to pay his.
Is there things you will and will not do for your love?
Do you cater to your man when he is at your house?, and does he cater to you when your at his house?
Whenever my boyfriend comes over I will serve him and pick up his plate after him, but he does the same thing for me when Im at his house.
If I spend the nite at his house, I will iron his clothes, he hates to iron and Im big on ironing.
He will make me coffee and bring the coffee to me. He hates coffee.
He will wash my clothes for me, I have several outfits at his house
My sister asked me is there anything I wont compromise on?
Friends I had before I met him, and friends he had before he met me, I will still talk to my guy friends, and he still talks to his girl friends.
I told her religion and financial, because his beliefs are his and mine are mine, and his money is his and mine is mine. I wont ask him to pay my bills and he wont ask me to pay his.
Is there things you will and will not do for your love?
Well, since his house IS my house, yes we do cater to one another at home
There is not much I wouldn't do for him, though there are some things I might rather not do. However, if something is important to him (and vice versa) it gets done.
Cater? No. We are not each other's slaves. If one makes dinner, the other helps clear the dishes. That's about it. Unless one of us is injured or recovering from surgery or something big like that, I don't do his housework and he doesn't do mine. If one of us needs help with something, that person will ask. Sometimes if one has a big project, the other will offer to help. For instance, he may be remodeling his bathroom soon. I offered to help him paint it, like I would for friends and family.
But waiting on each other hand and foot, no. I hate coffee, so I don't make it. (I don't even know how. Never drank it, never will.) If he hates something, he doesn't make it for me. We don't keep outfits at each other's places, either. Toothbrushes, that's all.
Do you cater to your man when he is at your house?, and does he cater to you when your at his house?
Whenever my boyfriend comes over I will serve him and pick up his plate after him, but he does the same thing for me when Im at his house.
If I spend the nite at his house, I will iron his clothes, he hates to iron and Im big on ironing.
He will make me coffee and bring the coffee to me. He hates coffee.
He will wash my clothes for me, I have several outfits at his house
My sister asked me is there anything I wont compromise on?
Friends I had before I met him, and friends he had before he met me, I will still talk to my guy friends, and he still talks to his girl friends.
I told her religion and financial, because his beliefs are his and mine are mine, and his money is his and mine is mine. I wont ask him to pay my bills and he wont ask me to pay his.
Is there things you will and will not do for your love?
At first, I was willing to do anything and I tried to make sure we were equal in what we gave. I never want to do more, and be taken advantage of, but that's not a problem with him and I know that now. He is willing to do ANYTHING, almost too much. I wish he would speak up for himself and what he wants more actually. But, I am willing to cook, clean, devote time to help him get through school, let him spend time with his friends whenever, and he is willing to do the same. We recently resolved this issue. I am NOT willing to sacrifice my personal character. I don't want to feel like I can't be myself around someone. Sometimes I get that oppressed feeling, but I talk to him about it and we work it through. But basically, I won't fake my happiness for the benefit of others, or I won't hold back when I am with friends and we are having fun, I don't want to feel like I have to "behave" when he is around. Do you knw what I mean?
We do lots of things for each other, because we want to. We have a reasonable division of labor for household tasks based on available time and aptitude and schedules (or sometimes because one hates a certain chore and the other does not), though there are many things we'll do together when two people are needed or more fun. There is little to compromise on because we are on the same page about almost everything, from beliefs to money, etc.
And she'll make me coffee, and I'll make her tea. lol
At first, I was willing to do anything and I tried to make sure we were equal in what we gave. I never want to do more, and be taken advantage of, but that's not a problem with him and I know that now. He is willing to do ANYTHING, almost too much. I wish he would speak up for himself and what he wants more actually. But, I am willing to cook, clean, devote time to help him get through school, let him spend time with his friends whenever, and he is willing to do the same. We recently resolved this issue. I am NOT willing to sacrifice my personal character. I don't want to feel like I can't be myself around someone. Sometimes I get that oppressed feeling, but I talk to him about it and we work it through. But basically, I won't fake my happiness for the benefit of others, or I won't hold back when I am with friends and we are having fun, I don't want to feel like I have to "behave" when he is around. Do you knw what I mean?
Yes I do. Its seems you have respect in your relationship
Nice post.
We do lots of things for each other, because we want to. We have a reasonable division of labor for household tasks based on available time and aptitude and schedules (or sometimes because one hates a certain chore and the other does not), though there are many things we'll do together when two people are needed or more fun. There is little to compromise on because we are on the same page about almost everything, from beliefs to money, etc.
And she'll make me coffee, and I'll make her tea. lol
If we were living together the financial would change
But the religious beliefs no
Well, since his house IS my house, yes we do cater to one another at home
There is not much I wouldn't do for him, though there are some things I might rather not do. However, if something is important to him (and vice versa) it gets done.
What's yours is yours and what's his is yours.
J/K
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