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So now I have to be madly infatuated with a woman to be passionate? I don't think so.
I guess some few experience lifelong infatuation but for myself and most others I should think, it always fades in time. So I guess you think the point is to find a girl that makes me all gitty and tingly on the inside, marry her eventually, enjoy a few years of passion, and then wake up one day, realize that feeling is not really there anymore, and work to maintain/improve a relationship with someone that-unless I was pretty lucky-really isn't someone I would like to be with almost every day for the rest of my life absent that feeling of infatuation...
No thanks...
Well the whole point of falling in love is to remember how it felt to fall in love. I mean, if I fell in love with a guy, even if the feeling fades and is replaced by another form of love... it's nice to remember why I got together with someone in the first place. When I remember, I would rather not have it sound like a business transaction or a clear column of pros/cons concerning a really good friend.
Of course it matters. It would be a very long sad lifetime together if there were none. I think there is a lot of it out there.
Why would anyone NOT want it?
Of course it matters. It would be a very long sad lifetime together if there were none. I think there is a lot of it out there.
Why would anyone NOT want it?
if somebody gave up and/or thought they weren't worth it, then i guess they wouldnt want it. everyone deserves to find a real love, with chemistry
If you get together without love and chemisty, you already have the boring marriage you claim most people wind up with. Why would you marry at all then? I know I don't want marriage, if I can't have it all...the whirlwind craziness of passion plus the shared interests that help keep us together.
Yes, being "in-love" is an essentia part of "chemistry". But chemistry actually has 5 facets to it. So love/passion is only one of those five. You have to have all 5 aspects of chemistry for a happy, long lasting relationship. A very practical book was written about this. I think it should be required reading for high school graduation. Although it's written for straight women, 90% of the book is applicable to anyone, gay straight, male or female:
So now I have to be madly infatuated with a woman to be passionate? I don't think so.
I guess some few experience lifelong infatuation but for myself and most others I should think, it always fades in time. So I guess you think the point is to find a girl that makes me all gitty and tingly on the inside, marry her eventually, enjoy a few years of passion, and then wake up one day, realize that feeling is not really there anymore, and work to maintain/improve a relationship with someone that-unless I was pretty lucky-really isn't someone I would like to be with almost every day for the rest of my life absent that feeling of infatuation...
No thanks...
Number one, infactuation and being in love is not the same thing. Look it up.
Number two, Trekkie aren't you a teenager or some sociopathic young adult who doesn't believe that love exist?
Passion usually is high in the beginning of the relationship. Id say "chemistry" is a mixture of compatibility and passion. Basically you are similar people and you both want to sleep with one another. Passion fades out after the beginning of a relationship. THats why in marriage its important to also be very compatible (like perfect friends). The final aspect of the rellationship is commitment.
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