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Yeah, we always had one of those marriages where I and everyone around thought it was an example that they do last forever. It's been slowly going south for the last few years and I did not recognize or pay attention to the problems. I take about 70% responsibility on doing a few stupid guy things (not cheating) but a large contributor has been her fighting depression.
I can never say anything bad about the SO, she's one of the kindest, fun & nicest people you could ever meet. I just hope we can stay semi-close friends as we move on.
I'm sorry, Rakin, and I'm surprised you didn't notice the problems as you're pretty astute. Obviously, I don't know details and I could be wrong, but it may not be too late to save your marriage! I'd fight for it if I were you!
Well even the astute miss the signs or gloss over the signs. There are times when it is possible to remain friends, sometimes it takes time before you can speak. For your own sake be as civil as possible.
I'm sorry, Rakin, and I'm surprised you didn't notice the problems as you're pretty astute. Obviously, I don't know details and I could be wrong, but it may not be too late to save your marriage! I'd fight for it if I were you!
Thanks, I guess it's easier to see outside your world then inside. After 30+ years you just never even think it's a problem until it's too late. There were a few stupid things done and said (mostly said by me) that pushed it over the edge.
One of our mistakes has been working together the last 10 years. It's always best if couples keep separate careers. Even though we're very successful in what we do we work differently which creates stress.
It seems like over a long period enough hurt is said and done that finally takes a toll. When the one you love the most says hurtful things it does so much more damage.
Thanks, I guess it's easier to see outside your world then inside. After 30+ years you just never even think it's a problem until it's too late. There were a few stupid things done and said (mostly said by me) that pushed it over the edge.
One of our mistakes has been working together the last 10 years. It's always best if couples keep separate careers. Even though we're very successful in what we do we work differently which creates stress.
It seems like over a long period enough hurt is said and done that finally takes a toll. When the one you love the most says hurtful things it does so much more damage.
Thanks, I guess it's easier to see outside your world then inside. After 30+ years you just never even think it's a problem until it's too late. There were a few stupid things done and said (mostly said by me) that pushed it over the edge.
One of our mistakes has been working together the last 10 years. It's always best if couples keep separate careers. Even though we're very successful in what we do we work differently which creates stress.
It seems like over a long period enough hurt is said and done that finally takes a toll. When the one you love the most says hurtful things it does so much more damage.
I've not given up yet.
Oh Rakin, I am sooooo very sorry! I do hope it's not too late and you and your wife can find your way back. Hang in there my friend!
Hi guys, got some sucky news to share and this is the 1st time I've said it in public. Looks like my 30+ year marriage is hitting the rocks. We are separating soon and in the process of splitting all the stuff.
Hopefully soon we'll both be able to start healing and starting a new life. No need for a thread asking what to do, I believe we can handle crisis with out the mess (I hope).
Just hope I can have the wisdom to do the right things.
I'm sorry, my friend. I did the same but at only half the duration.
According to Chinese philosophy everything has a cycle of creation and destruction; it was this philosophy that saw me through my tough times, and hopefully it can lend you some support also.
According to Chinese philosophy everything has a cycle of creation and destruction; it was this philosophy that saw me through my tough times, and hopefully it can lend you some support also.
I agree that everything is born, lives it's life cycle then dies. It seems like relationships are very similar, some life cycles are just longer than others.
Thanks, I guess it's easier to see outside your world then inside. After 30+ years you just never even think it's a problem until it's too late. There were a few stupid things done and said (mostly said by me) that pushed it over the edge.
One of our mistakes has been working together the last 10 years. It's always best if couples keep separate careers. Even though we're very successful in what we do we work differently which creates stress.
It seems like over a long period enough hurt is said and done that finally takes a toll. When the one you love the most says hurtful things it does so much more damage.
I've not given up yet.
Glad to hear that, Rakin. It's worth it!
Also, you're saying your wife is depressed (Geez, the pics could've fooled me...). I'd imagine this depression must have some sources other than you... Don't you think that resolving them somehow may help?
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What a shocker...I am sooo very sorry. 
It's worth it!