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As a female who avoids females because of jealousy and bitterness, I can tell you it is because it reminds women of an insecure woman and is a huge turn off for women, when they see a bitter or moody man.
As a female who avoids females because of jealousy and bitterness, I can tell you it is because it reminds women of an insecure woman and is a huge turn off for women, when they see a bitter or moody man.
as a woman, I can tell you it doesn't remind women of an insecure woman.
Bitterness shows a definite inability to not accept your own role in the mess and not get past it. Bitter people get stuck in a rut and can end up with serious health problems because of it. I have had plenty to be bitter about in my life, but why wallow it. Find some humor about, accept your own role in it and move the hell on. Bitter people are nothing more than a dragging annoying downer to everyone around them which only reinforces more bitterness.
Yes Thursday007... find humor in it... just recently I've had someone crush my heart but instead of bitterness, I have found the humor in it... won't go into a boring explanation but I even have found empathy for this person... how sad that they will never experience a truely kind, warm giving individual with their negative take on life.... not everyone is out to get you and lie to you... it is a small narrow view on things when you stay bitter... open up and enjoy things around you... smile when your sad... you never know who might be falling in love with that smile you know...
Yes Thursday007... find humor in it... just recently I've had someone crush my heart but instead of bitterness, I have found the humor in it... won't go into a boring explanation but I even have found empathy for this person... how sad that they will never experience a truely kind, warm giving individual with their negative take on life.... not everyone is out to get you and lie to you... it is a small narrow view on things when you stay bitter... open up and enjoy things around you... smile when your sad... you never know who might be falling in love with that smile you know...
I remember many moons ago a weekend from hell. I lost my job. I totalled my car into a city bus. when I got home my boyfriend of three years immediately called me and broke up with me on the phone, so I went out to mow the lawn and the lawn mower blew up. I could have gotten a lot of bitter miles off that one weekend, but instead sat at the kitchen table, feet propped up watching the squirrel chase chipmunks around the backyard and then began laughing and literally said outloud, 'Well, nothing like starting from a completely clean slate." It just seemed like so much ridiculousness to the whole thing, which I liken to a 'I love Lucy' episode, how could you not find humor in it.
As a female who avoids females because of jealousy and bitterness, I can tell you it is because it reminds women of an insecure woman and is a huge turn off for women, when they see a bitter or moody man.
Which is why I internalize my anger and bitterness instead of wearing them like military campaign-pins. Not the healthiest approach, but you have to understand I am Canadian.
I remember many moons ago a weekend from hell. I lost my job. I totalled my car into a city bus. when I got home my boyfriend of three years immediately called me and broke up with me on the phone, so I went out to mow the lawn and the lawn mower blew up. I could have gotten a lot of bitter miles off that one weekend, but instead sat at the kitchen table, feet propped up watching the squirrel chase chipmunks around the backyard and then began laughing and literally said outloud, 'Well, nothing like starting from a completely clean slate." It just seemed like so much ridiculousness to the whole thing, which I liken to a 'I love Lucy' episode, how could you not find humor in it.
Great post! Yes! How can you not find humor in this...if only as a means of surviving. No kidding here, when I've had days or a week like this, I too, will find myself laughing, saying, "Whoa...it's a chain of bad sh*t comin' on. I'm not going ANYWHERE, not answering the phone, not touching ANYTHING I don't have to touch or talking to anyone I don't have to talk to... cuz clearly, I've got a nasty cloud of bad mojo. It looks like it's gonna be a chain yourself to the couch and watch a good movie time. I'll just be patiently sitting over here in my quiet corner for a bit until this storm has passed."
I guess for some of us, if who have lived long enough, it's not the first time a pile of crap has fallen on our lives. You know it's not going to last forever, you just have to wait it out. Also, yes....if a friend leaves you, you get turned down for a job, someone breaks up with you, you can laugh and say, "Yeah, well....I would have given my absolute best to you, but clearly...you don't deserve me. I'm sure glad I found out you weren't worth it before I put any more effort into it. Thanks!"
as a woman, I can tell you it doesn't remind women of an insecure woman.
Bitterness in either gender is a turn off.
Same here artemis. Bitterness has no "gender", nor does it remind me of A gender-specific attitude. It's draining and a turn off, regardless of the gender. Being a strong and "independent" woman, I find bitterness to be an appalling weakness in either gender. Women are supposed to be strong and resilient too.....just as are men. Self-pity is such a waste of time.
I remember many moons ago a weekend from hell. I lost my job. I totalled my car into a city bus. when I got home my boyfriend of three years immediately called me and broke up with me on the phone, so I went out to mow the lawn and the lawn mower blew up. I could have gotten a lot of bitter miles off that one weekend, but instead sat at the kitchen table, feet propped up watching the squirrel chase chipmunks around the backyard and then began laughing and literally said outloud, 'Well, nothing like starting from a completely clean slate." It just seemed like so much ridiculousness to the whole thing, which I liken to a 'I love Lucy' episode, how could you not find humor in it.
Yes... I love it... just have to laugh sometimes... for sure Thursday007... I believe we shared that same day ... but mine ended with the dash of my car catching on fire and the windshield broke out by the fire department LOL...
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Yes... nature does it for me :)
