Fallen for an older woman (long-term, married, women, love)
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The title pretty much speaks for itself. I'm 22 and she's 35. We're currently friends and we get along really well. But I'm conscious of the age gap and the implications it has. I've been thinking about her a lot but not one part of me has the strength to tell her how I feel. One of the reasons is cause I don't wanna ruin our friendship (I'm pretty convinced she doesn't have any romantic feelings for me - I think she sees me more as the 'younger brother' type).
How can you be 100% sure that she doesn't have romantic feelings for you too, though?
Nothing wrong with falling in love with an older lady...so long as both parties are of legally-consenting age, age is just a number!
I didn't say I'm a 100% sure she doesn't have feelings for me, but I think it's quite likely for several reasons. First, I'm not that good with women, second, she has reiterated how she's taking a big break from men (disastrous relationship after another) and she's gonna focus on other things - third, she always tells me how I remind her of her little brother (he's 25).
Regarding your 'age is nothing but a number' notion - I very much like it
I didn't say I'm a 100% sure she doesn't have feelings for me, but I think it's quite likely for several reasons. First, I'm not that good with women, second, she has reiterated how she's taking a big break from men (disastrous relationship after another) and she's gonna focus on other things - third, she always tells me how I remind her of her little brother (he's 25).
Thx for sharing more details -- do you think that based on her personality (she sounds like a really nice person, from your description), there is a possibility that she might actually feel touched and that you were very sweet, if you were to tell her how you feel about her, in a tactful way of course? (I am also assuming here that you are interested in her for something like long-term, serious relationship purposes?)
Also do you think that in the worst-case scenario if she doesn't have any romantic feelings for you, that she would really and truly end her friendship with you? J/c, how long have you guys known each other for, btw?
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Regarding your 'age is nothing but a number' notion - I very much like it
Thank you...and best of wishes and good luck, with your dream girl who is older!
Thx for sharing more details -- do you think that based on her personality (she sounds like a really nice person, from your description), there is a possibility that she might actually feel touched and that you were very sweet, if you were to tell her how you feel about her, in a tactful way of course? (I am also assuming here that you are interested in her for something like long-term, serious relationship purposes?)
Also do you think that in the worst-case scenario if she doesn't have any romantic feelings for you, that she would really and truly end her friendship with you? J/c, how long have you guys known each other for, btw?
Thank you...and best of wishes and good luck, with your dream girl who is older!
Well, she always tells me I'm sweet. But the again, a lot of females have always told me that (ever since middle school) but that label hasn't necessarily translated into attraction lol. But I've told her a few things and she has been touched. I just don't know how she would react if those things were romantically-oriented. And yes, I'm interested in her long-term/serious commitment wise.
And no, she certainly wouldn't terminate our friendship if knew about my feelings for her. She's one of the nicest people I've come across. We've known each other for 8 months and when we first met, I was really depressed. She was one of the reasons I got out of the slump (she'd been where I was once so she was experienced on the subject). She knows a lot of personal things about me as a result, and I know quite a few things about her, too. We're pretty close friends-wise. Or at least I think so.
And thank you for the wishes. Really appreciate your input on the situation.
Am I incorrect when I feel that it's more socially acceptable for older man/younger woman relationships than vice versa?
Ah you will find some whom accept and some don't.
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Older woman has fallen?
