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If you can pay off his bills by December, then he really isn't all that bad off.
However, when you live together, it's really important that you have the money discussion. Yeah, I know it's not the most romantic thing ever, but having some kind of understanding up front saves lots and lots of heartache later.
It's his debt, Not yours. Don't pay any of his bills. And the same would be true if you had the debt and he had none. It's not a gender issue, it's a equity issue.
It's his debt, Not yours. Don't pay any of his bills. And the same would be true if you had the debt and he had none. It's not a gender issue, it's a equity issue.
But she's not paying any bills, he's paying ALL of the bills, including hers now that she moved in.
Thw whole idea of this thread was to get ideas on what I can pay extra for him, he won't let me do it, so I will just have to go do it, if that's the route I choose to do....
I would ask what your long term plans are. Do you see the two of you getting married and spending your lives together or is this just a short term thing?
If it's short term then continue doing what you're doing and guide him in getting back on his feet. If you're going to get married it's better to have both parties out of debt before going down that road and you should start helping out where needed
I would ask what your long term plans are. Do you see the two of you getting married and spending your lives together or is this just a short term thing?
If it's short term then continue doing what you're doing and guide him in getting back on his feet. If you're going to get married it's better to have both parties out of debt before going down that road and you should start helping out where needed
No, I see us together, and eventually married. And that's what my goal is to get him in good shape and the 17 year daughter grown and out.
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But you said you split the groceries. You're paying for his trip? cool .
I did say that and we are splitting, I bought these two weeks he will buy the next two times, simple.
Oh and I guess I failed to mention that I paid for 17 year old daughter a week at the beach over spring break, my boys went as well.
Not to mention a nice Bass boat I have my eyes on, but, that will be for me...
I would ask what your long term plans are. Do you see the two of you getting married and spending your lives together or is this just a short term thing?
If it's short term then continue doing what you're doing and guide him in getting back on his feet. If you're going to get married it's better to have both parties out of debt before going down that road and you should start helping out where needed
YES. This is what my gf and I are doing. She isn't making that much right now so I take care of rent, bills, groceries and my own stuff. She spends her money on her own payments and gives me money when she can. We're taking it as her debt is my debt and my debt is her debt because we are in this for the long-term. In about 2 years we will be rid of both cars, all the credit cards, lasik and IRS bills. However, we will be left with about $70K in student loans between the two of us. Those will come due in 2013 and I'm trying not to think about them. I'm thinking by then she'll have a decent job and we'll be able to live on one income and pay off those loans in a few years.
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