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I hate it. I think its one of the reasons why I don't have any true friends. All I know is how to talk about myself and inept at carrying on a good conversation. My social skills have always sucked. Never had a real date in my life. I see myself as a loser and ugly. When I talk about myself all the time, I feel like a narccist. I dislike asking people questions about themselves because I don't want to come off being intrusive or when I've done it in the past it was just a brief response like yeah
If you are an adult why haven't you gone to the library to check out books and self-help DVDs on how to improve your self? You are not impoverished or under 12 are you?
I hate it. I think its one of the reasons why I don't have any true friends. All I know is how to talk about myself and inept at carrying on a good conversation. My social skills have always sucked. Never had a real date in my life. I see myself as a loser and ugly. When I talk about myself all the time, I feel like a narccist. I dislike asking people questions about themselves because I don't want to come off being intrusive or when I've done it in the past it was just a brief response like yeah
Well you sure won't improve your skills by endlessly posting threads on CD.
If you are an adult why haven't you gone to the library to check out books and self-help DVDs on how to improve your self? You are not impoverished or under 12 are you?
Tried that, didn't help. It seems like I'm the one that always has to try to start a conversation and its one-sided with me doing the talking. So, it feels many times I'm just talking to myself because I don't get much of a response when talking to another person
Tried that, didn't help. It seems like I'm the one that always has to try to start a conversation and its one-sided with me doing the talking. So, it feels many times I'm just talking to myself because I don't get much of a response when talking to another person
Try talking with tv guy. He's in the market for both a newfriend, and new date.
Take an interest in other people. Speak little, listen a lot and ask questions about them. The fact you think you talk too much about yourself is a great start.
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Take an interest in other people. Speak little, listen a lot and ask questions about them. The fact you think you talk too much about yourself is a great start.
That's the idea. Pick up on whatever the persons do say about themselves and show interest by asking follow up questions. Something like "I've always been interested in ........too, but never tried it. What do you like most about it?" or "how did you get started in it?
Just stay away from really personal questions until they volunteer something
personal.
You're saying you suck, you're inept, can't talk, are ugly, and a loser. Oh yeah, and never had a real date.
I'll just address the loser part, because I know that you are not one. You're a winner. Winners search for answers, and that's exactly what you're trying to do now. They may cry, they may get frustrated, but that won't shame them, or stop them.
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