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Okay, so let's say you go to your friend's house with your SO. And some point, you leave the two of them alone, maybe you had to run to the bathroom, or you went outside to have a smoke.
While you're gone, your so-called best friend hits on your SO. Now, your SO rebuffs her...but says nothing to you about it. However, the next time you want to go visit her, he declines to go.
This could apply both ways, just change the requisite genders....
Now, for the questions.
Would you have wanted to know right away? And do you feel it's dishonest of your SO to withhold the information? Remember, nothing happened, the advance was thwarted. Would it make sense that your SO is reluctant to visit that friend, without wanting to tell you why? Lastly, would you end a friendship over a similar situation?
That happened to me a few times. I told and it backfired. Guys just don't want to believe their best friends would betray them but they do. Guy code goes out the window once his back is turned.
I would want to know if my friends are hitting on my bf.
I would want to know, just so I would know the type of person my "friend" is, and I'd definetly cool the jets with that person, and if they ever ask why, I'd tell.
The SO is the new person, and may not feel like potentially harming a long-term friendship. Clearly, they're not comfortable now around the friend knowing drama could result. It's kind of a damned if you do tell, and damned if you don't.
Personally, I'd probably laugh it off, would probably tell, and try to minimize any falllout.
If the relationship with the SO were really, really strong, I'd inquire about a threesome!
Edit: I'd also wonder if the friend was trying to test my loyalty to their friend. DANGER Will Robinson!
Okay, so let's say you go to your friend's house with your SO. And some point, you leave the two of them alone, maybe you had to run to the bathroom, or you went outside to have a smoke.
While you're gone, your so-called best friend hits on your SO. Now, your SO rebuffs her...but says nothing to you about it. However, the next time you want to go visit her, he declines to go.
This could apply both ways, just change the requisite genders....
Now, for the questions.
Would you have wanted to know right away? And do you feel it's dishonest of your SO to withhold the information? Remember, nothing happened, the advance was thwarted. Would it make sense that your SO is reluctant to visit that friend, without wanting to tell you why? Lastly, would you end a friendship over a similar situation?
That's all.
This happened to me. My best friend's husband hit on me several years ago. I told him bluntly that was inappropriate, and we have not spoken since. I never told her. I didn't know what to say, started to wonder if I was blowing the whole thing out of proportion, and then too much time had passed. She never said anything about his infidelity, so I chalked it up to a weak moment and let it go.
This happened to me. My best friend's husband hit on me several years ago. I told him bluntly that was inappropriate, and we have not spoken since. I never told her. I didn't know what to say, started to wonder if I was blowing the whole thing out of proportion, and then too much time had passed. She never said anything about his infidelity, so I chalked it up to a weak moment and let it go.
If she's your best friend, how do you avoid seeing him and talking with him...?
If she's your best friend, how do you avoid seeing him and talking with him...?
She lives in another state. I used to live in our hometown, and I'd only see her when she came home to visit (he'd be home with their kid). I haven't seen her in person since we moved here. She and I text and talk on the phone and Facebook.
This has never happened to me, or my SO (to my knowledge).
Can the people who have responded saying that they have been "hit on" by their SO's friend, describe what exactly you mean by that? Is it flirting? Or more direct like "you know, I've always found you incredibly sexy", or even like trying to touch or kiss you?
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