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Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, I present Exhibit A. ^^^^
TV, I don't rag on you a tenth as much as others on C-D have, but I'll be honest and say that the way you describe your dating scenarios on here makes you come across as a bit wet behind the ears in terms of social graces. And if you aren't, then you make bad choices about who you ask out--which is no one's fault but yours.
I just find it WEIRD that a woman would go on a dating site and state a laundry list of what she wants in a man like she is the only female on the site-LOL
With all the horror stories I have heard, I don't blame these men for feeling the need to spell it out. But I agree, no need to whine about past relationships in your profile. Get over it and don't date until you do.
I just find it WEIRD that a woman would go on a dating site and state a laundry list of what she wants in a man like she is the only female on the site-LOL
That's why I usually reply-"You trippin baby"
Men do that, too. I remember seeing a profile for this one guy who said he only wanted women who were a size 2 or size 4 at the most. He had a thing for the word "callipygian."
Okay, so he liked petite women with nice butts.
BUT, he also had a height requirement. The woman had to be 5'7" or taller.
Funniest thing i know about the dating sites (looking through match.com and 2 others a while back and decided it wasn't worth the cash...) is that there aren't any different women; every single ones goes by the same crap that basically looks like this in one form or another:
"Hello! I am a down to earth, easy going woman who likes to go shopping, hang with my girlfriends and travel.
I want a guy who:
*Is a millionare,
*With a highstatus occupation,
*Have the body of a greek god,
*Would be a perfect dad
*Have the social skills of Oprah Winfrey
*Who can take me out to see the world
*Who will treat me like a princess"
Hey, if they're going to lose touch with reality, might as well wish big.
When you see stuff like that, you shouldn't read it as "fulfill all this stuff or GTFO" but rather as, "this is what I ideally want, although I will settle for less. P.S. -- I have poor social skills"
P.S. -- as a guy, doing things like this is even worse. Girls at least have the cover of trying to deter some of the messages they get. As a guy, you're going to be doing most of the approaching in any venue, online or off, so why alienate people by posting desires/requirements? Just don't message the ones you don't want.
BUT--and there is always a "but"--I have never seen so much bitterness, anger, sexism, and utter ignorance about women amassed in one public space as I have seen on C-D. Lots of good guys here, but ye gods, the man-children threaten to overpower them just by sheer number.
LOL.....stick around, we have some lovely ladies here.
You do realize the OPs last BF was a drug dealing parolee that lived at home and stole from her right?
Men do that, too. I remember seeing a profile for this one guy who said he only wanted women who were a size 2 or size 4 at the most. He had a thing for the word "callipygian."
Okay, so he liked petite women with nice butts.
BUT, he also had a height requirement. The woman had to be 5'7" or taller.
And no more than 115 to 120 pounds.
That's what I mean by ignorant about women.
Those darn men! Reminds me of the gals I know that ONLY date >6feet tall. lol
Men do that, too. I remember seeing a profile for this one guy who said he only wanted women who were a size 2 or size 4 at the most. He had a thing for the word "callipygian."
Okay, so he liked petite women with nice butts.
BUT, he also had a height requirement. The woman had to be 5'7" or taller.
And no more than 115 to 120 pounds.
That's what I mean by ignorant about women.
It's always funny how these threads turn into a battle of the sexes. One gender accuses the other of something (in this case being shallow) without mentioning that both genders are RIDICULOUSLY guilty of it.
Everyone's shallow to a certain degree. I wouldn't date Fran Drescher no matter how great a personality she had.
It's always funny how these threads turn into a battle of the sexes. One gender accuses the other of something (in this case being shallow) without mentioning that both genders are RIDICULOUSLY guilty of it.
Everyone's shallow to a certain degree. I wouldn't date Fran Drescher no matter how great a personality she had.
I don't think Yvette was accusing guys in general of being shallow (correct me if I'm wrong, Y) but being unrealistic. It's more of the idea that many men don't know how much women weigh, and thus think every woman who weighs more than 120 lbs is morbidly obese. A 5'9" woman weighing 115, for example, isn't impossible or necessarily unhealthy, but she'd be very thin. Generally, taller women are going to weigh more.
I don't think Yvette was accusing guys in general of being shallow (correct me if I'm wrong, Y) but being unrealistic. It's more of the idea that many men don't know how much women weigh, and thus think every woman who weighs more than 120 lbs is morbidly obese. A 5'9" woman weighing 115, for example, isn't impossible or necessarily unhealthy, but she'd be very thin. Generally, taller women are going to weigh more.
Well if a guy goes on a dating site and asks a woman her weight then that's probably a guy to be avoided. I always thought that was a rude question
Both genders have unrealistic expectations. As a "regular" guy (no six pack, average height, etc etc) I've experienced this first hand with many women. I've also been friends with many average women that have experienced the same thing. It seems like dating sites really streamline rejection of average people. Many users are tempted to think that just one more click will get them someone slightly smarter, more adventurous, taller or prettier/more handsome. Here and there you'll get a little interest but even online dating can be tough without embellishing the traits that cater to superficiality. That's just how dating is in general I suppose, no different in the online world.
LOL.....stick around, we have some lovely ladies here.
You do realize the OPs last BF was a drug dealing parolee that lived at home and stole from her right?
2-way street.
He was NOT. liar. that's not true
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