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I've never been one to want a rich chick to take care of me. I've always earned far more than the women I date despite all of them being older than me. I hate receiving gifts but don't mind doing the "little" things for my lady to reassure her that I love her. What I DON'T do is try to take care of their every need while they are more than capable and presently earning income. I don't subscribe to gender roles.
Case in point, I've been dating this new young lady for about 4 months. Shes intelligent, gorgeous and really funny (don't run into many women that can purposely make me laugh). We get along very well but I'm starting to notice that she is EXTREMELY spoiled and delusional when it comes to taking care of herself. She's 30, I'm 27 (I earn approximately twice as much as she does) I'm shocked by her expectations of what a guy is "suppose" to do for her. Previously she dated her high school sweetheart for about 7 year and then on and off for about 3, in total 10 years. During this time he essentially took care of her through college, paid her rent after college when she moved to New York to "pursue" a fashion career. He bought her a new car when hers was repoed, etc.....basically playing the role of the father despite her being 29 when they finally broke up.
Now she has to provide for herself and recently (yesterday in fact) the transmission on her MERCEDES (the one he bought her) went out and the quote today was 4k to replace it. I have the money but I genuinely don't feel its my responsibility at this point to fund her repairs/endeavors considering shes taken 2 lavish vacations since we've met. She hasn't asked but I know its coming. I can't really call her a gold digger because either I cook or if we go out I'll offer to pay in most cases. We haven't gone on any vacations or purchased each other gifts and the likes. Just exclusively getting to know one another through evenings at dinner or walks in the park or quite evenings at home cooking.
Its obvious that her past relationship has distorted her perception of the man/woman relationship because she doesn't feel as if she needs to contribute much financially yet she and her boyfriend broke up because he worked all the time paying for her stuff.
She says shes working on it and I do see a little progress. Maybe this situation will bring her back to reality......if not, well.....she wont make the cut. I really don't feel as though I need to teach an adult how to be an adult despite the feelings we have for each other.
If a 30 year-old is an "older woman" to you, I'm in big trouble, LOL
Well I've always dated women older than me, the most being by 10 years. I don't consider them OLD, just older than I. I prefer wine over grape juice if you know what I mean.
First off, a 3 year age difference isn't dating an older woman! If you were in Jr high, 3 years would be significant.
But none the less, you shouldn't pay her car repairs. After a couple months of dating, that would be too much to expect.
Only you can decide if dating a funny, intelliegent, beautiful woman is worth your time, effort and money. Although, I hear beautiful, intelliegent and funny women are hard to find.
Maybe skip the beautiful ones and just look for funny & smart.
I've never been one to want a rich chick to take care of me. I've always earned far more than the women I date despite all of them being older than me. I hate receiving gifts but don't mind doing the "little" things for my lady to reassure her that I love her. What I DON'T do is try to take care of their every need while they are more than capable and presently earning income. I don't subscribe to gender roles.
Case in point, I've been dating this new young lady for about 4 months. Shes intelligent, gorgeous and really funny (don't run into many women that can purposely make me laugh). We get along very well but I'm starting to notice that she is EXTREMELY spoiled and delusional when it comes to taking care of herself. She's 30, I'm 27 (I earn approximately twice as much as she does) I'm shocked by her expectations of what a guy is "suppose" to do for her. Previously she dated her high school sweetheart for about 7 year and then on and off for about 3, in total 10 years. During this time he essentially took care of her through college, paid her rent after college when she moved to New York to "pursue" a fashion career. He bought her a new car when hers was repoed, etc.....basically playing the role of the father despite her being 29 when they finally broke up.
He obviously had the money to do so. If she dated the guy for 10 years, then she probably hasn't experienced much else. Why are you shocked??
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Originally Posted by moddestmike
Now she has to provide for herself and recently (yesterday in fact) the transmission on her MERCEDES (the one he bought her) went out and the quote today was 4k to replace it. I have the money but I genuinely don't feel its my responsibility at this point to fund her repairs/endeavors considering shes taken 2 lavish vacations since we've met. She hasn't asked but I know its coming. I can't really call her a gold digger because either I cook or if we go out I'll offer to pay in most cases. We haven't gone on any vacations or purchased each other gifts and the likes. Just exclusively getting to know one another through evenings at dinner or walks in the park or quite evenings at home cooking.
She hasn't asked. So why are you upset? You haven't even bought gifts for each other, and you are complaining? I don't get it.
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Originally Posted by moddestmike
Its obvious that her past relationship has distorted her perception of the man/woman relationship because she doesn't feel as if she needs to contribute much financially yet she and her boyfriend broke up because he worked all the time paying for her stuff.
She says shes working on it and I do see a little progress. Maybe this situation will bring her back to reality......if not, well.....she wont make the cut. I really don't feel as though I need to teach an adult how to be an adult despite the feelings we have for each other.
You've really lost me on this. What exactly is the problem? What has she done?
Good grief, I have jeans that are more than 30 years old and I don't even consider them old
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