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That's how I feel about my SO, too, Mooseketeer. Even when we're just chilling doing our separate things together, I'd usually rather be with my SO than out with somebody else. My sister, I feel the same way about.
My SO and I actually feel sometimes like we are falling down on the job of cultivating a big circle of friends (particularly "couple" friends) like it's something we're supposed to be doing and are missing out by not making it a priorty. But neither of us are super interested in that...it's not that we don't enjoy socializing with others when the opportunity presents itself, it's just that we're happy doing things on our own, as well. In an ideal world, we'd meet another couple who is similar to us...easygoing, up for random outings, etc., but it's hard to find people who are like that. The biggest barrier to cultivating friends you hang out with regularly is scheduling, unless you're neighbors or coworkers, and run into one another incidentally a lot. It also seems like every time we meet a couple who might be candidates for being that kind of social friends, one party or the other is super high maintenance or otherwise hard to be around/difficult in temperament. It never seems to fail...every time one of us meets somebody who is super cool, and we suggest a couples' night out, the spouse or significant other is revealed to be a dud in some regard or another. It never fails to amaze me when awesome people are hooked up with people with a considerably more narrow margin of awesomeness.
Hubby is my best friend. The very few friends we have are friends in common so are part of OUR social life rather than just mine or his. Neither of us are very good at making friends so we have a tiny circle of dependable ones and a lot of friendly acquaintances.
To be honest there is nobody I can think of I would rather spend time with so if there is a choice between socialising or being with him it is a no brainer. He seems to feel that way too which suits us both just fine. We share interests, hobbies, and ideals so from that point of view it makes sense for us to be together too.
Both of us are quite happy on our own, even sitting in companionable silence reading for example but we are very active and do a lot outside the home, travel, archery, boating ( when we can), polo, art galleries,museums, theatre, movies, concerts, architecture, archaeological sites etc... We never have too much time, if anything we always find it hard to find the time to fit it all in.
Both of us enjoy seeing friends once in a while but can live without also.
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Originally Posted by TabulaRasa
That's how I feel about my SO, too, Mooseketeer. Even when we're just chilling doing our separate things together, I'd usually rather be with my SO than out with somebody else. My sister, I feel the same way about.
My SO and I actually feel sometimes like we are falling down on the job of cultivating a big circle of friends (particularly "couple" friends) like it's something we're supposed to be doing and are missing out by not making it a priorty. But neither of us are super interested in that...it's not that we don't enjoy socializing with others when the opportunity presents itself, it's just that we're happy doing things on our own, as well. In an ideal world, we'd meet another couple who is similar to us...easygoing, up for random outings, etc., but it's hard to find people who are like that. The biggest barrier to cultivating friends you hang out with regularly is scheduling, unless you're neighbors or coworkers, and run into one another incidentally a lot. It also seems like every time we meet a couple who might be candidates for being that kind of social friends, one party or the other is super high maintenance or otherwise hard to be around/difficult in temperament. It never seems to fail...every time one of us meets somebody who is super cool, and we suggest a couples' night out, the spouse or significant other is revealed to be a dud in some regard or another. It never fails to amaze me when awesome people are hooked up with people with a considerably more narrow margin of awesomeness.
That's how my SO and I are as well. Neither of us are particularly sociable types. We enjoy one anothers company.
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