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I'm someone of average looks and got some things going for me as people have told me!! however I've never had any luck with women. Recently though I've actually managed to get some feedback and been told the usual softener "You're a really nice guy" but the clincher "but there's no spark, don't feel any chemistry".
So I'm asking what is this mysterious spark all about? What is this chemistry?
What character trates do some people have that create this spark - afterall some people are far more successful with women than others and I really am sick of being left on the shelf!! All my friends have one or two girls and then got married and have kids. I've dated loads of women, and it doesn't matter whether I like them or not. It doesn't matter if I've held hands or kissed at the end of the date. Always the next few days after the second date its the same "You're a really nice guy, but I felt no spark, there was no chemistry there".
The girls don't say anymore than that and don't tell me what this magical thing 'a spark' actually is though.
How does the chemistry feel ? What does a guy outwardly display if you feel chemistry or that spark for him as opposed to a guy you don't feel anything for? Please help with this - A big question maybe, but a helpful answer could change my life - so please help !!!!! please !!!!!!
It's called attraction. The spark is the feeling you get when you know you can see yourself "doing" this person Work on becoming more attractive whatever it is. Cloths, attitude, practive makes perfect. Stop being so nice. A little a hole behavior can work just don't go overboard. Act like talking to them is not big deal. Women can sense a desperate man a mile away.
This is a hard question to answer, but I will give it my best.
First of all either you have chemistry with the person or you don't. I really don't think there is any way to "make" it happen. With my husband, I just knew he was the one for me pretty much from the beginning. Every time I saw him I got butterflies in my stomach and every time our dates ended I couldn't wait until we could see eachother again. I still feel this way today, even after 12 years of marriage. I know he is the one I will grow old with.
It's called attraction. The spark is the feeling you get when you know you can see yourself "doing" this person Work on becoming more attractive whatever it is. Cloths, attitude, practive makes perfect. Stop being so nice. A little a hole behavior can work just don't go overboard. Act like talking to them is not big deal. Women can sense a desperate man a mile away.
I do have to say that attitude has a lot to do with it, IMO. My husband is very confident and to me that is a turn on. I'm not sure about the a hole behavior comment though. He NEVER acted like that and he still got the girl. I think it depends on the individual.
I do have to say that attitude has a lot to do with it, IMO. My husband is very confident and to me that is a turn on. I'm not sure about the a hole behavior comment though. He NEVER acted like that and he still got the girl. I think it depends on the individual.
The a hole thing needs to be in a small amount. I'm sure when you were dating, your husband didn't run to do everything you asked him to. I bet sometimes he just had "things to do" and was unavailable. I don't mean literally treat her like dirt. Just don't be a door mat. "Be a man" as they say.
I'm someone of average looks and got some things going for me as people have told me!! however I've never had any luck with women. Recently though I've actually managed to get some feedback and been told the usual softener "You're a really nice guy" but the clincher "but there's no spark, don't feel any chemistry".
So I'm asking what is this mysterious spark all about? What is this chemistry?
What character trates do some people have that create this spark - afterall some people are far more successful with women than others and I really am sick of being left on the shelf!! All my friends have one or two girls and then got married and have kids. I've dated loads of women, and it doesn't matter whether I like them or not. It doesn't matter if I've held hands or kissed at the end of the date. Always the next few days after the second date its the same "You're a really nice guy, but I felt no spark, there was no chemistry there".
The girls don't say anymore than that and don't tell me what this magical thing 'a spark' actually is though.
How does the chemistry feel ? What does a guy outwardly display if you feel chemistry or that spark for him as opposed to a guy you don't feel anything for? Please help with this - A big question maybe, but a helpful answer could change my life - so please help !!!!! please !!!!!!
You have much more than "some" things going for you. If you don't believe this about yourself, it might be the reason why there is no "spark."
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Work on becoming more attractive whatever it is. Cloths, attitude, practive makes perfect. Stop being so nice. A little a hole behavior can work just don't go overboard. Act like talking to them is not big deal. Women can sense a desperate man a mile away.
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