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What line of work are you in? If it's publishing, science, medicine, law, performing arts, academics, or anything that relies on your name as your brand or requires you to publish research, don't do it. I don't care how incredible you think your marriage will be and how you will never ever ever get divorced ever, keep your own name if your name is important to your career.
What Dilemma, it has been a tradition....
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You want the Strong/Confident type, or do you want the weaselly/sensitive little limp wristed metro sexual.? Because ladies you CAN'T have both.
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So make up your mind, or stay un-married, leach child support off of a decent guy, and date that brother T-Bone in the next apartment, and end up with (hpv) that turns into GENIT@L Warts. I mean "HEY" it's your V@G, do with it what you want, just don't cry and say "poor piity me", when you are 32 years old, and no one wants your battered and sore encrusted V@G, not even T-bone, cause the brother has moved on to your inept younger sister, and now she has Warts..
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But "HEY", you know what's best for you, and forget the method that has been "proven" to keep you safe, happy, loved, and wart free.
Who wants to be happy in the end anyway "right"..??
So go ahead and be revolutionary, a Rebel, you are sooo awesome, and smart, you don't need to live the way "THEY" ( The MAN i.e the System) want you to, nothing bad is gonna happen to you, because you are unique, you are special.
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Just go to the Local PUB, you will see 30 somethings like this, and it's sooo pathetic it is Funny, you can see the desperate look in their eyes, trying so hard to sucker some guy into their cesspool of a life.
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I'm so glad I don't have to worry about any of that., but "HEY".
We married when we were 24 and I took my husbands last name for the simple fact that it was common and easy to pronounce.
I was so tired of spelling my last name for people, people mispronouncing my last name and making assumptions about my background based on my last name.
These days more and more people are doing that, no big deal. I personally know at least 3 couples where the wife kept her name. And if I ever were to marry again, I would keep mine. If the guy really wanted to be with you, he'd accept it. Just my 2c.
I took my husband's last name and was happy to. I think he would have been really hurt if I'd insisted on keeping my maiden name and rejected his.
I would totally consider double barreling both names if they went well together and I felt strongly about keeping my maiden name, but it wasn't a big deal to me, it would make him happy for me to take his name and as I'm not famous or anything, it was a no brainer.
I happily took my husband's name. I liked his last name, and wasn't particularly attached to my family name. I also wanted to have the same last name as my children.
That said, I think a woman / couple should do whatever feels right. One of my friends married last year and they chose a completely new last name together. They are the second couple I have known to do this. Another couple I knew blended their last names to create a new married name for them both. I actually suggested this to my husband and without hesitation he said "no." It wasn't a big deal to me.
I use my maiden name professionally and my husband's name socially. If I had been younger when we married and not so well-established professionally, I would have taken his name. Having the same last name feels more unified and solid as a family unit, IMO.
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