Is Marriage overrated? (long-term, woman, love, husband)
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I have never been married, but it seems to be pretty miserable. So many married couples fight a lot. Not Newlyweds, but people who have been married for a long time. They seem to take each other for granted, and they stop doing little things to appreciate each other. Possibly worst of all, married couples hardly ever have sex!
Obviously this is not true for Everyone and there are exceptions (like every other thread ever created on the Relationships forum, its based on some Politically Incorrect Stereotyping). But marriage seems like such a miserable experience. Surely there must be some good points that i am missing. But wow, no wonder guys never want to Tie the Knot. The older I get and the more of my buddies i see getting married, the more it sounds like a Jail Sentence.
Anyway, is marriage totally overrated, or are there some good things I am missing? Could you be happy for the rest of your life having a Significant Other but not getting married? Who knows, maybe you would end up fighting less and having sex more.
The way some make it disposable is the problem. When it is viewed as a partnership instead of only romance and sex that the true good of a union is understood.
Being married is like a jail sentence. It gets worse when you have kids. I am so very blessed to not be burdened with kids after serving 3 jail terms. Not having kids is one reason I have more then 2 nickles to rub together which I would not have if I had to pay extortion to them per court order.
Show me a happy couple after 10 years and I'll show you tonights winning pick 6 lottery winning ticket. Ain't gonna happen. Those who tell you otherwise are lying through their teeth. Nature did not make man and woman compatible for the long term. Simple as that, like it or not.
And the idea that marriage is the hallmark of a declining sex life is sort of a red herring. A long-term unmarried couple is as likely to see their sex life grow stagnant as a married couple, IF, in either instance, they are failing to make an effort with it.
Being married is like a jail sentence. It gets worse when you have kids. I am so very blessed to not be burdened with kids after serving 3 jail terms. Not having kids is one reason I have more then 2 nickles to rub together which I would not have if I had to pay extortion to them per court order.
Show me a happy couple after 10 years and I'll show you tonights winning pick 6 lottery winning ticket. Ain't gonna happen. Those who tell you otherwise are lying through their teeth. Nature did not make man and woman compatible for the long term. Simple as that, like it or not.
But you're not talking about marriage, here, you're talking about any long-term relationship, which you personally happen to consider unsustainable, presumably because YOU'VE had problems sustaining one. Right?
[quote=TabulaRasa;19284220]But you're not talking about marriage, here, you're talking about any long-term relationship, which you personally happen to consider unsustainable, presumably because YOU'VE had problems sustaining one. Right?[/quote]
Nope. "WE" were unable to sustain it. Because the relationship is unsustainable for long term, it's more rooted deep into our biology then our moral minds ability to force it to work. Especially men who need some variety. Hey don't shoot me for saying that. Blame your God for making us that way.
My husband is the best thing in my life. I'm happier around him than I am with out him. I can't tell you how amazing it is to have someone wonderful to share your life with - someone who understands you, someone who supports you, someone who believes in you, someone who loves you unconditionally, someone who makes you laugh even when you think you aren't in the mood, someone who you can learn from, really, I could go on and on. I've been with my husband now for over 9 years and I love him more and more everyday. I can't imagine my life with out him.
When you really fall in love - you realize how easy it is. Yes, a relationship still requires effort and some work - but even the fights aren't so bad when you truly love someone.
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