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...and all that. But what if time won't heal this wound?
The backstory: I was dating a guy for a year - he is moving to a new city an hour away in about a month but we had talked and he wanted me to go with - and I wanted to go with. We had talked about the future, finances, and the logistics. I thought he was the one (still do).
About 3 weeks ago, he dumps me. Apparently we are too different...but the only reasons I got were our music and car choices. He doesn't think I"ll be happy long term. (I'm aware this means he doesn't think he'll be happy).
So now, 3 weeks after the fact, I still think he made a mistake. I am not delusional enough to think he'll change his mind. And I'm not sure I want him to, because who wants someone who doesn't want them back? But I really think he was wrong. My question for myself in relationships is this: Will I always wonder if there is someone better out there for me? And with him, the answer was no. No, he wasn't perfect, but I loved him for his flaws, not despite them.
What if he's the one that got away (or just didn't want me)? Will time really heal that wound?
I agree that time heals. It's still very fresh for you, so I'm sure it doesn't feel that way. Big hugs. I also think sometimes that rejection can make us want the person even more. I'm not sure why that is.
Cars and music? Be glad he dumped you. He has the emotional maturity of a 12 year old. Just a guess here but it sounds like both of you could stand another few years growing before you worry about long term relationships.
Time will heal that wound. I had a very painful breakup with a woman I was engaged to (we even had our wedding all planned out.) Huge amount of drama involved, but time did heal that wound. It takes a while, but it will happen.
I think we often give time the credit when it's really something within ourselves that heals us. Time doesn't always heal if you keep holding on and don't let go. I will never stop missing my brother who died at 15..but I have focused more on appreciating the time and and memories instead of the loss.
For your situation I think it's helpful thinking...why would I mourn the loss of this relationship when it's not something the other person wants? Work and focus on yourself and try not to dwell on the what if's or you will go insane.
i dont think time heals all wounds. i think time lessons the pain and helps you forget a little bit of what you are feeling now.
some wounds shouldn't heal. they happen in order to learn lessons in your life. everyone here will probably tell you that you will meet someone new, the one that is perfect for you. you know that is true. it's just that right now, this is a fresh wound, but you will find someone who will fill all of those hurts.
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