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Thats not true. You may be visual but you will not want to look a other people if you are content and loyal to your "other"
I know men who are only friends of mine and admit they do not look at porn(doesnt do much for them)....they masturbate, but do not look at porn.
I am a woman and I do not get turned on by emotions....so all this is social garbage....some men buy into it and so do some women....
I dont and I know some men are not the same as other men.
Your opinion... disagreed with by about 98.77777% of guys I've ever been around when the subject has come up in any way...
-What your missing (I underlined it) For guys... it's NOT ABOUT THE PEOPLE.
Now, if you disagree with porn because it objectifies women... you would have a compelling case and I'd agree with you.
THIS is a PERFECT illustration of the difference in viewpoints. To women: It's looking at other people.
GUYS: Don't even notice the people... it's the sex.
Now I'll be the first to admit that the... shall we say... frequency goes WAY down when in a relationship.
But this does not effect the fact that guys ARE wired differently.
And if I had a nickle for eveyr woman who said they 'wern't one of those women' for whom emotions played a part (And they really were)
I'd not be back in school working on my 2nd career.
If there is consistancy, If a woman wants a man in a relationship to stop watching porn. The woman should stop reading and watching her romance books/movies.
Sex feels good, whether it's intercourse or masturbation. I could have sex once or twice a day (and do!) and still enjoy porn occasionally. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with a guy watching it - it's more of an attitude problem (most likely socially conditioned) on the part of women who find it objectionable without truly sound reasons.
I can't rep you (yet), but you've been spot-on throughout the thread
For starters, I'm okay with people watching/using porn. It's not my cup of tea but I don't think it's necessarily disrespectful or dangerous, unless it's compulsive. Yes, many guys find it a huge turn-on but no, not all of them do. There are men who prefer the real thing, who are bored by porn, who (like me, a woman) find it invariably or frequently distasteful, etc. Funny how women are accused of making rude generalizations about men, and of hating them or treating them like dummies, while the usual scenario is: some men saying all men love (or even need) porn (and/or prostitution), and some women saying that this generalization is unfair.
And no, there's nothing for any of us to learn from porn. Please. Are we so permeated and dumbed down by the media and the commercial hyper-sexualization of everything (think Brave New World) that we're increasingly unable to distinguish fact from fiction? It's like saying you can become a medievalist scholar by reading and/or watching Lord of the Rings and Game of Thrones on repeat.
Agreed. The OP is allowed to be uncomfortable with her boyfriend looking at porn. It's not something that she should automatically have to suck up and get over.
Yes, we've all heard that men are more visually aroused, but that doesn't mean that men have no self control and can't adjust their porn viewing in a way that makes their partners comfortable. So maybe the OP's boyfriend isn't going to stop looking at porn, but he can at least not do it while she's around, not have his computer's wallpaper be a naked chick, in all, respect her needs as well as his own.
maybe 'themanwithnoname' is only asking others like himself about porn viewing and that is why he is getting the 'statistics' that he is. ALOT of women are not driven only by emotions, you must be from another generation. You are deluded in regards to every gender having a variety of people who have different turn ons and expectations. NOT EVERYONE IS THE SAME AND FITS INTO A BOX, BECAUSE OF WHAT IS BETWEEN THEIR LEGS.
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Sex feels good, whether it's intercourse or masturbation. I could have sex once or twice a day (and do!) and still enjoy porn occasionally. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with a guy watching it - it's more of an attitude problem (most likely socially conditioned) on the part of women who find it objectionable without truly sound reasons.
I don't find it objectionable if you're single, as long as it's not obsessive that is. However, if you're in a relationship and get enough sex, any other than occasional viewing does not sit well with me.
Yes it's normal. Every guy and most women look at porn or have at some point in their life. It's nothing against you. Let it be and don't get mad at him.
maybe 'themanwithnoname' is only asking others like himself about porn viewing and that is why he is getting the 'statistics' that he is. ALOT of women are not driven only by emotions, you must be from another generation. You are deluded in regards to every gender having a variety of people who have different turn ons and expectations. NOT EVERYONE IS THE SAME AND FITS INTO A BOX, BECAUSE OF WHAT IS BETWEEN THEIR LEGS.
I don't ask.
But just like this... It comes up from time to time.
I guess... due to the VERY different groups..
Have a nice day.
Last edited by JustJulia; 09-11-2011 at 06:35 PM..
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Not for now. Eventually, the media will manage to convince everybody it's perfectly fine.
I really don't care for the Media influence on us either, but I really despise anyone pushing their sexual agenda on me from the other side..
Just as Religous based social conditioning has pounded into are heads for centuries that any sex outside of the need for procreation is evil. Just what I need is someone pushing their view on me from their 1400 century based view on sex. Maybe a sheet with a hole in it separating you and your spouse is the only appropriate way to have sex!
Last edited by LS Jaun; 07-22-2011 at 10:50 AM..
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