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Three of my family members want to throw me a party for my birthday. However, I'm sort of an introvert and don't really like to be in the spotlight. They all know this about me so would I be rude if I told them I would prefer just a simple dinner? I don't want them to think I don't appreciate what they've been trying to do but at the same time, it's my birthday and I think I should be able to celebrate it how I wish.
I think it's your birthday and if you tell them kindly that you prefer just a quiet dinner, there's nothing rude about that. You could even suggest they save the party plans for one of their birthdays or whatever holiday comes up next.
I think it's your birthday and if you tell them kindly that you prefer just a quiet dinner, there's nothing rude about that. You could even suggest they save the party plans for one of their birthdays or whatever holiday comes up next.
Three of my family members want to throw me a party for my birthday. However, I'm sort of an introvert and don't really like to be in the spotlight. They all know this about me so would I be rude if I told them I would prefer just a simple dinner? I don't want them to think I don't appreciate what they've been trying to do but at the same time, it's my birthday and I think I should be able to celebrate it how I wish.
What do you all think?
Its YOUR birthday. This day is about you, not your friends, family, whoever else. Do the things you love, enjoy it, it only comes once a year.
I would politely try to let them know what your preferences are. it is your day and they should be excited to do what you want with it! If you want a small and personal group, that is what they should want to do for you. Good luck!
If they really get insistent, then make plans to be out of town. That's what I'll be doing for my 50th. And my wife knows there's a standing threat of divorce if she ever has a surprise party for me.
I can relate to your feelings because I also don't like to be the center of attention and those kind of events just make me a nervous wreck. I agree with the others that you should be able to celebrate your own birthday in any way you want but the only thing is that you need to express your feelings on the subject without hurting anyone's feelings by making it known that you really do appreciate their thoughtfullness but that you just don't feel comfortable in those situations. Just tell them what you've told us and thank them for their kind gesture.
If they really get insistent, then make plans to be out of town. That's what I'll be doing for my 50th. And my wife knows there's a standing threat of divorce if she ever has a surprise party for me.
My mom organized a huge surprise party for my dad once and when he showed up, he was actually really pissed off. He just left and it ruined the atmosphere for the rest of the "party". Throwing a huge party costs a lot of money so if the birthday person doesn't want it, then it's a huge waste of money.
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