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I've been friends with this one guy for about 3 years now. When we hang out, it is usually because he text messages me & asks to hang out. He is completely unreachable and unresponsive except for the few times he messages me. When we first met, we were hooking up once in a while. Now, its at the point where we don't hook up at all. It's just so random with him and confusing. I'm not sure what he wants out of the relationship - maybe he just wants a friend and I'm reading too much into it. But, if he just wants to be my friend, why does he contact me so rarely? The last two times we hung out, he wanted to cuddle but nothing more even when I hinted at other things? Um.. yeah I'm just really confused about him. He is a mystery.
1) Does he like me?
2) Does he just want to be my friend?
3) Why wouldn't he want to have sex with me but just cuddle?
4) Why does he ignore all my text messages and only contacts me at his convenience (which is four times a year literally) ?
The way I feel about him is, I like cuddling & hooking up. I could really see him as a friend with benefits but also a guy that respects me and that I can talk to too.
1. Yes or he wouldn't initiate.
2. Yes- but friend means different things to different people. 3. Maybe he just wants to be friends and for him thats not enough for a hook up? Old school maybe, or religious, or.....
4. Married?
I've been friends with this one guy for about 3 years now. When we hang out, it is usually because he text messages me & asks to hang out. He is completely unreachable and unresponsive except for the few times he messages me. When we first met, we were hooking up once in a while. Now, its at the point where we don't hook up at all. It's just so random with him and confusing. I'm not sure what he wants out of the relationship - maybe he just wants a friend and I'm reading too much into it. But, if he just wants to be my friend, why does he contact me so rarely? The last two times we hung out, he wanted to cuddle but nothing more even when I hinted at other things? Um.. yeah I'm just really confused about him. He is a mystery.
1) Does he like me?
2) Does he just want to be my friend?
3) Why wouldn't he want to have sex with me but just cuddle?
4) Why does he ignore all my text messages and only contacts me at his convenience (which is four times a year literally) ?
The way I feel about him is, I like cuddling & hooking up. I could really see him as a friend with benefits but also a guy that respects me and that I can talk to too.
I think you already know the answer sweetie..
I fel what you are looking for is answer that negates what you already know..And this is okay...sometimes it is hard to make a observation when you are directly involved even with all the bells ringing in your head..to hear it from others makes it concrete..
So I will tell you my opinion based solely on the info on your thread..
It appears to me as if your guy friend seeks you out when he is lonely and has nothing else going on..
Needs that physical with someone whom he is familiar with and there is no pressure to be someone he is not..it does not haveto be sex it could mean contact period..
What you need to ask yourself as much as you would be willing to accept a FWB or NSA type of deal ARE you getting what you need from this?
Is this what YOU want?
Which is to be contacted on spur of the moment occassions? And be readily available at this persons beck and call? Ar you getting your needs met? Do you feel validated? Cared for? Or AS if the current arrangement is really okay with you?
This is only something you can answer...But personally speaking? I do not play second fiddle as a woman, nor am I am something a guy does when nothing else is popping..I am not your fun girl nor a stepping stone until you feel like getting serious...
I have friends that I will see very rarely...sometimes YEARS go by....I think that this man must really like/value your FRIENDSHIP, and that is why he trys to maintain some contact....I think that it is YOU who are wondering and possibly hoping for more from this man than the simple friendship that you have.....If he had sex with you, would he then become more than just the friend he wants to be??, and if that were so for you, and not for him....would you still feel he respects you???
I fel what you are looking for is answer that negates what you already know..And this is okay...sometimes it is hard to make a observation when you are directly involved even with all the bells ringing in your head..to hear it from others makes it concrete..
So I will tell you my opinion based solely on the info on your thread.. It appears to me as if your guy friend seeks you out when he is lonely and has nothing else going on.. Needs that physical with someone whom he is familiar with and there is no pressure to be someone he is not..it does not haveto be sex it could mean contact period.. What you need to ask yourself as much as you would be willing to accept a FWB or NSA type of deal ARE you getting what you need from this?
Is this what YOU want?
Which is to be contacted on spur of the moment occassions? And be readily available at this persons beck and call? Ar you getting your needs met? Do you feel validated? Cared for? Or AS if the current arrangement is really okay with you?
This is only something you can answer...But personally speaking? I do not play second fiddle as a woman, nor am I am something a guy does when nothing else is popping..I am not your fun girl nor a stepping stone until you feel like getting serious...
Why are you asking strangers on the Internet these questions? You need to ask him these questions, though I doubt he will answer with any honesty.
You need to also ask yourself why you allow yourself to be used in such a trivial fashion. He wants sex? He texts you and you go over there and comply. He doesn't want sex but texts you to come over... you obey. This is not a relationship, it's nothing more than casual convenience for him.
I fel what you are looking for is answer that negates what you already know..And this is okay...sometimes it is hard to make a observation when you are directly involved even with all the bells ringing in your head..to hear it from others makes it concrete..
So I will tell you my opinion based solely on the info on your thread..
It appears to me as if your guy friend seeks you out when he is lonely and has nothing else going on..
Needs that physical with someone whom he is familiar with and there is no pressure to be someone he is not..it does not haveto be sex it could mean contact period..
What you need to ask yourself as much as you would be willing to accept a FWB or NSA type of deal ARE you getting what you need from this?
Is this what YOU want?
Which is to be contacted on spur of the moment occassions? And be readily available at this persons beck and call? Ar you getting your needs met? Do you feel validated? Cared for? Or AS if the current arrangement is really okay with you?
This is only something you can answer...But personally speaking? I do not play second fiddle as a woman, nor am I am something a guy does when nothing else is popping..I am not your fun girl nor a stepping stone until you feel like getting serious...
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