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Wow..I didn't expect this many responses. This isn't a troll. I have watched so many men and couples and everyone just seems so disconnected anymore. I have watched my brothers and nephews just shrug off hurting someone and go on their merry way.
First, it was not a dating relationship, it was a 12 year marriage. He always wanted money and found a woman who had some and said she would share. It's been several years since I even felt like dating and I think it will be a while before I try it again.
If someone would tell me how to change the title, I will do so.
Wow..I didn't expect this many responses. This isn't a troll. I have watched so many men and couples and everyone just seems so disconnected anymore. I have watched my brothers and nephews just shrug off hurting someone and go on their merry way.
First, it was not a dating relationship, it was a 12 year marriage. He always wanted money and found a woman who had some and said she would share. It's been several years since I even felt like dating and I think it will be a while before I try it again.
If someone would tell me how to change the title, I will do so.
About the title, sometimes we are are not at our best when we are hurt.
Don't flame me on this -- I am asking a sincere question. The men I have known seem to be able to turn their feelings on and off like a light switch.
My ex told me on a Wednesday that we would grow old together. On Friday he said he was outta here, he'd found someone else, goodbye.
My latest (10 month relationship) told me how much he cared, all the things we would do together, etc. A week later he told me he has changed and doesn't think he has time anymore.
How do you do it? Is it just staying detached? Is there a trick to turning your emotions on and off that quickly and being able to walk away without a backward glance?
Bottom line: He just didn't want you, ever. He was playing a game and got tired of you. He will get tired of the next woman and the next, until he meets his match...................................a woman who thinks just like him....................................ok, good bye, nice knowing you, NEXT!
It kind of sucks, though, not being there to watch and smile when this happens.
I feel tremendously sorry for the OP, who apparently is serious in asking this question. How can anyone get to be an adult and never have met a single adult male who "had feelings?"
You need intensive therapy because the vast majority of men have feelings. The fact you never encountered a single one of them speaks volumes about YOU.
My dad was a good example of someone who appeared to not have feelings, or at least appear to be a cold person. He wasn't like this at all but there weren't going to be too many folks allowed to see beyond the wall he had built up. Two women, my mom and a serious LTR (8+ years) he was once in, those break-ups impacted him greatly. In fact, I don't think he ever recovered 100% from the break-up with the woman he'd been involved with for 8+ years......and that break-up was a long time ago. His feelings ran deep but he kept them to himself; unfortunately, just a like a lot of men are raised to do.....suck it up, get over it, don't cry, etc.
I've seen women do some pretty crappy things to men too, we're all human no matter our gender. Bad things happen to both men and women. Some people just have no character, some of us just make mistakes.....really bad, crappy ones that hurt other people. It sounds like the guys once in the OP's life just were not quality people.
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