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I am posting this for my cousin because she is not a member here.
She has been dating a guy for 3 weeks. Last night she showed me a comment he had posted on his Facebook page stating that and I quote:
"Black women are no good and they are selfish b*tches"
As she was scrolling down the posts of his page I noticed a pattern of general woman bashing. There were not many postings of that nature, but the 5 or 6 that were there were very brutal against black women. I saw comments from people telling him that he is very wrong to judge all black women that way.
I asked her if they had been into an argument and she said no. She told me that he asked her to move in with him and she said that it was way too soon for that and it seemed to tick him off.
Well, dating is how we get to know someone and find out whether or not he or she is relationship material. If your cousin strongly disagrees with his comments about black women and finds his attitude towards them or anything else offensive, one check in the "con" column. If she finds his suggestion to move in together way premature, check two. If he seemed annoyed at her not agreeing with him, check three. I'd wager that a whole lot more checks will soon be added in the "con" column and will override the "pros". Sounds as though your cousin knows what she's doing and should just watch and wait but not get too deeply involved with him after such a very short time.
Certainly we're all entitled to choose our preferences. He has issue with women of his own race. Frankly I think he has issues with women, regardless of race. I'd dump him and I'd tell him why.
Men who move to fast in relationships, are a red flag in my book. Its a method of control and potential abuse.
Yesterday she was over at my house and we were watching a movie and basically just having girl talk. He called her no less than 4 times asking her when we would be done. He was being a pest to the point that she simply turned her phone off.
Personally, I think he wants someone to control and do things his way and since he can't find anyone that will be at his beck and call 24/7 he takes to Facebook to unleash anger. This guy is 36 years of age and behaves like a child.
Yesterday she was over at my house and we were watching a movie and basically just having girl talk. He called her no less than 4 times asking her when we would be done. He was being a pest to the point that she simply turned her phone off.
Personally, I think he wants someone to control and do things his way and since he can't find anyone that will be at his beck and call 24/7 he takes to Facebook to unleash anger. This guy is 36 years of age and behaves like a child.
I hope shes not flattered and feeling special by the attention, It's in no way an indication of love.
Most abusers have poor communication, anger, impulse, and the need to control their partners.
Okay I just got a phone call from her and she is ending things. I am willing to bet he is not going to take this well.........
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