when a man becomes distant or disappears (dating, boyfriend, girl)

[lovebird22]

i was dating a guy and we hit it off but soon he became distant. and when i reach out to him- not an answer- 2 weeks later he pops up explaining to me that he shutdown cuz his mom died but didnt explain his behavior prior that.

what should a girl do? we were suppose to meet this weekend, but not a word from him. should i reach out to him or not? i feel like he will think please dont bother me or that he is using this as an excuse to keep me arms apart

[lovesMountains]

For whatever reason he's lost interest.

Let it go and move on.

There are other fish in the sea

[Mightyqueen801]

Originally Posted by lovebird22

i was dating a guy and we hit it off but soon he became distant. and when i reach out to him- not an answer- 2 weeks later he pops up explaining to me that he shutdown cuz his mom died but didnt explain his behavior prior that.

what should a girl do? we were suppose to meet this weekend, but not a word from him. should i reach out to him or not? i feel like he will think please dont bother me or that he is using this as an excuse to keep me arms apart

I'd say not. If he were truly interested, dead mother or not, wouldn't he have contacted you for your supposed meeting this weekend? Why reach out to someone who does not appear to be that interested in you?

[artsyguy]

They want to feel more important than you. It's their way of feeling valuable. Or maybe you and him grew apart.

[Retroit]

If a man is so secretive that he wouldn't tell you that his mother passed away, what other secrets will he keep from you?

[yankeegirl313]

Originally Posted by lovebird22

i was dating a guy and we hit it off but soon he became distant. and when i reach out to him- not an answer- 2 weeks later he pops up explaining to me that he shutdown cuz his mom died but didnt explain his behavior prior that.

what should a girl do? we were suppose to meet this weekend, but not a word from him. should i reach out to him or not? i feel like he will think please dont bother me or that he is using this as an excuse to keep me arms apart

What do you think? I mean, seriously?

First time..shame on you!!!
Second time...shame on me!!!

Move on! Life is too short.

[Ro2113]

Originally Posted by Retroit

If a man is so secretive that he wouldn't tell you that his mother passed away, what other secrets will he keep from you?

Maybe he doesn't want bring her down and feels his mother's death his issue.

[scarletneon]

I'm dealing with the same thing right now. I can't tell if he's just busy and sick (as he announced on facebook) or if he changed his mind about me.

[Dollydo]

Move on, he is not Mr. Right.

[lottamoxie]

Nope do not reach out. Men who are interested make sure and get on a gal's date calendar. If they disappear or don't contact, you may assume they are not interested (or not interested enough), and there is nothing you can do but find someone else who *is* better boyfriend material for you.

Chasing a guy never works. It just doesn't. You may get him for a night or two, but you want someone who really WANTS you, not agrees to hang with you because he has nothing better going on.