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unfort..cheaters don't look at that the whole picture..it's instant self gratification..don't look at long term results..it's about the thrill..NOT getting caught..deep inside maybe wanting to get caught..it's missing a part in yourself and trying to find it..............it's a very childish act...It's playing russian roulette every day with your life and others.....WHY not leave..why when you can have your cake and eat it too..(selfish)
I can say this from personal experience i was all the above..I was stupid and uncaring.............God i am glad i grew up and took responsibility of my actions.........Before it was tooooooooo late............and finally i did leave..at a very dear cost...........nothing i am proud of NOW........
I wonder that too.
Maybe laziness? I had this coworker one time who cheated on his wife. They have been married for almost 30 years and everyone at work knew what was going on. A couple of us asked him why one time and he said he would never leave her because she was a good wife, just didn't care about sex anymore, so he finds it somewhere else. He also said he has too much invested in the house, vehicles, etc. and going through a divorce would be too much trouble. Sounds like laziness to me.
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I wonder that too.
Maybe laziness? I had this coworker one time who cheated on his wife. They have been married for almost 30 years and everyone at work knew what was going on. A couple of us asked him why one time and he said he would never leave her because she was a good wife, just didn't care about sex anymore, so he finds it somewhere else. He also said he has too much invested in the house, vehicles, etc. and going through a divorce would be too much trouble. Sounds like laziness to me.
I agree with this....and through in a lack of emotional depth. It's just easier to get sex elsewhere than to work on it at home. I've known a lot of cheaters and it's always about sex.
All of the above. The biggies that haven't been mentioned yet are financial. Unless you are quite wealthy, a bitter divorce will pretty much destroy you financially and ruin your possibilities of retirement. Next is child support. It's a huge chunk of your income every month. Many want to have children but they don't want to pay.
Much easier to just get a little side action. I think money plays a big part in infidelity.
I think men in general just get bored and want something new, so they find ways to fulfill those desires. Men seem to be weaker vessels in the ways of being tempted, it doesnt take much for some attractive woman to walk by, use body language as a signal, then all of a sudden all his circuits are maxing out and hes following her like a lost dog. It doesnt makwe it right, its just mens nature (for the most part).
For some....it's the "have your cake and eat it too" theory. You might have a wonderful SO at home who looks great to the outside world and takes care of things at home but doesn't satisify all the needs. So the SO will hunt for those needs elsewhere. They may not want to give up what they have at home, so they attempt both.
I've never really liked cake myself...
What about when it's just a boyfriend or girlfriend they are cheating on? Why be with someone that doesn't fulfill your needs, it's not like being married when you'd have to go through a messy divorce or whatever. Somene on another thread mentioned (can't recall who) that they cheated on a BF because it wasn't a caring fulfilling relationship, so WHY NOT JUST MOVE ON?
I'm sure there's a lot of different reasons.
One main reason is....the cheater is CHICKEN POOP and doesn't have the guts to move on.
Or....they don't want to deal with the conflict so they stay in the relationship because they think it's easier.
Or....they are looking to get caught on the show "Cheaters" so they can show the world what pathetic losers they are.
I don't think there's one correct answer to your question.
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