I trust you but not her. (girlfriend, woman, love, cheat)
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As stated in a previous post one of my best friends is female. There is nothing sexual about our relationship never has been. When my female friend was looking for a place to move out, she asked me if I would be intrested in sharing a place with her & her son. I told her no because I didn't think it would be right nor do I want my GF to worry about if anything was going on or not. Not to mention she is supposed to be moving down here in Feb, March. She got quiet for a minute when I tolf my GF this. I asked what's wrong she said I did the right thing by telling her no. Then she said I trust you but not her I've heard this before but often wondered if there is some hidden meaning by it. I don't want to cause any waves but I thought it was best if I told her about it. Better to hear it from me then someone else right?
It means exactly what it sounds like. She trusts you but not her. Basically, she trusts that you won't cheat on her but she doesn't trust that your friend won't try to make you.
It means exactly what it sounds like. She trusts you but not her. Basically, she trusts that you won't cheat on her but she doesn't trust that your friend won't try to make you.
Is she asking me in some way to stay away from her or at least limit my time with her?
Is she asking me in some way to stay away from her or at least limit my time with her?
Hmm... I can't really speak for her but I would say that if she doesn't trust her - she probably wouldn't feel comfortable with you spending a lot of time by yourself with her. If you are really close friends with this other woman and you know that she only wants a friendship with you - I would express this to your girlfriend. She might believe you, she might not. But I would say that you took the first step in the right direction in being honest about the situation with her. Hopefully, if your relationship with this other woman is genuinely complete platonic (and it sounds like it is on your end, for sure), then in time - your girlfriend will learn to trust her as well and there will be no issues. Unless your girlfriend has major trust issues - but that's a whole other can of worms!
your girlfriend will learn to trust her as well and there will be no issues. Unless your girlfriend has major trust issues - but that's a whole other can of worms!
I think to some extent we all have some hidden trust issues. When my GF moves here we're moving to another town two hours north of here. My friend is moving back to North Carolina at some point in time. So I don't think that they will get close at any point.
I think to some extent we all have some hidden trust issues. When my GF moves here we're moving to another town two hours north of here. My friend is moving back to North Carolina at some point in time. So I don't think that they will get close at any point.
Of course we all have trust issues - but there is a difference between being mildly jealous (as in needing some extra reassurances now and then) and being insanely jealous (as in telling you who you can and can't be friends with).
OP, I'm sure you know about all the codes and what they really mean.
It's not you, it's me = It's you.
You're like a brother to me = I'm not having sex with you
I love you but I'm not in love with you = I don't love you.
Sorry, but
It's not you I don't trust, it's her = I don't trust you.
She's just being subtle, she is untrusting, but doesn't want to admit it, so tries to shift the blame onto the 3rd party to avoid seeming confrontational.
It's not necessarily a bad thing, or a red flag, but obviously your relationship isn't at a stage where your SO is comfortable with what's going on.
It's nice that you want to help your friend, but you need to find another way, methinks.
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