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That's really a reflection on your girlfriend, not you. She made the assumption. You were just being yourself.
No it wasnt, It was me, I think introverted shy people may not realize, how they are perceived. I'm no longer like the way I was, and I can recall what I used to do, like avoiding eye contact for example, it doesnt come off as all that approachable. That and she wasnt the only person that said that about me, so it was me not her. And as I no longer suffer from it, I can see the difference.
Typical defensive-offensive attitude I was talking about. I never assume shy people are stuck up, it's YOU who jumped to the conclusion. Really, you timid people are the problem.Together with the super anti socials who claim that everyone talking to them is a blabbermouth. Darren, please tell these clueless STUBBORN PEOPLE who never listen. Don't want to open mouth, don't want people to invade your space. Nobody knows you except yourself, if you won't budge, why then should anybody else ? DOUBLE STANDARDS
For example, if people can't understand my French(and they sometimes don't!) or whatever, I don't blame them, it's often my own language skills that are wanting. Sure, the others can be patient but the ball is in my court. I can moan and groan that people don't engage me in conversation or I can TRY to better my ability to speak. I am aware that there are others who can chat better so why should folks bend over backwards for me ?
I'm done with this.
Wow I'm guessing a shy person must have really hurt you. By the way when did this thread become about attacking shy people? Maybe we would come out of our shells if people would stop with the unprovoked hostility.
Who cares? People can be extroverted or introverted - it has nothing to do with looks. And usually people that come off as stuck up are coming off as stuck up for a reason - and not necessarily because they are attractive. There are unattractive people that come off as stuck up as well.
Granted most people are extroverted to begin with, but is an attractive person more likely to be extroverted than an average or unattractive person?
Yes. They have more confidence.
People will be more likely to listen to attractive people (particularly if you are of opposite sex, obviously) so attractive people will be more confident in what they have to say.
Granted most people are extroverted to begin with, but is an attractive person more likely to be extroverted than an average or unattractive person?
To answer your question most of the other posters got it right. There's no correlation between attractiveness and shyness. I can see the thought process behind your theory though. Just imagine two sisters, one is very cute, the other not so much. Obviously as they grow older the cute sister gets tons of positive attention from guys some of which are the most popular boys in school. So she gets invited into their inner circle. Meanwhile the unattractive sister is constantly teased and berated by everyone because of it.
So yes I can see how attractive people are more extroverted than unattractive people but it's just not true.
People who are generally considered attractive come from a life long exposure of positive reinforcement from people who seek their attention. They more often than not, learn to be sociable unconciously at a very early age.
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Together with the super anti socials who claim that everyone talking to them is a blabbermouth.
Darren, please tell these clueless STUBBORN PEOPLE who never listen. Don't want to open mouth, don't want people to invade your space. Nobody knows you except yourself, if you won't budge, why then should anybody else ? DOUBLE STANDARDS
